This is the year I’d like to open myself up to having a relationship.
I mean for real.
I have been single for 10 or 11 years.
Yep. You heard me right. I am like a born again virgin.
I have had some dates over the years, but I have not been intrigued enough by anyone to want to do anything about it.
There for a while I even had the opportunity of being “Mrs. Robinson.”
I tried it out a couple of times, but it didn’t work for me. It is not my style, although, it was extremely flattering.
I have become quite comfortable being single.
And it took a while, but now those closest to me are comfortable with me being single too.
I think that shift happened in the last few years.
It is just a given, Lisa is single.
Before my dating hiatus, I had two long-term relationships, back to back, with one year off in-between.
My exes wanted what most people want – marriage, kids, etc. I didn’t.
There are other reasons the relationships didn’t work out, but the underlying theme was simple – we each wanted different things and envisioned different futures.
Both of my exes are married now, and I believe one has children.
I recently found out that my first ex waited to get married until the fall of 2014.
That brought me comfort.
He took his time, like I have.
He is the one that got away in my world.
I wouldn’t change anything. Things did not work out for a reason.
But he is the one I have cared for the most in my life.
As for me, I have made a couple of false starts of maybe wanting to date again.
But now I think I am ready, now as in on the other side of tax season.
Last month I was extremely busy with a January 31st deadline.
I remember waking up one morning at 3:30 am thinking about work – I need to do this, I need to do that, this needs to changed and oh, don’t forget that other thing!!
And then I thought – Holy Cow! I need to get a life!!
And that is when I started thinking about how nice it would be to be in a relationship again.
So on the other side of tax season, I will seriously get out, get involved and meet new people, because I could use more friends too.