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Dating 102: Not Going Any Better Than Dating 101

So things have changed since my post Dating 101: My Starbucks Lover.

Starbucks Lover did email me back, this time saying a whole bunch but not really saying anything at all, like…this is what I do for a living.

Which I was looking for since that was one of the things I asked him.

I decided to get a guy’s perspective so I emailed the conversation from the beginning to a guy friend of mine this time.

Poor Starbucks Lover, he certainly would not be emailing with me if he knew I was sending them to my sister and guy friend for feedback. hahaha

But he’s a complete stranger, so having others in the mix on my side, well that is just the way I went.

I have mentioned my Starbucks Lover in a couple of posts on Facebook, one joking about asking him to go with me to see the movie Fifty Shades of Grey.

And my guy friend sent me a message behind the scenes.

Here’s our conversation….

Him: Dude…..I don’t want to rain on your parade but, do you know if SBL is in some kind of relationship? He never answered the job question and never gave forth any details about his living quarters…..only that he has a son and has an ex (am I reading your blog correctly)? or with a roommate etc…..some guys don’t mention significant others unless they are asked directly…. Just saying….. Trying to look out for you.

**Disclaimer: I did not ask about his living quarters or situation.**

Me: Dude, you are a mind reader. I was thinking on the way home – this dude is either married or in a relationship and neither of those options work for me. hahaha

Him: Well…..I got to thinking ….and he was gun shy and kinda reluctant to give info freely…..I hear Ya ….I hope neither are the case ….

Me: It doesn’t matter. It is not that I hope he is the one, because he is not, I can’t date anyone named Rolfe. What is cool is that I stayed open enough to talk with him in person and email with him. I am making progress!!! hahaha

And my statement is true.  I don’t think he is “the one.”  I am not your average girl.  I am not saying all girls are like this, but many are, they very much want to be part of a couple that they will latch on to the first dude on the scene.

For me it really was, wow that is so cool.  I met a cute guy, we talked, we had similar interests, there was a spark or a flicker of something and it gave me something fun to talk about on Facebook.

Plus I really did open up and give someone a chance.

Several guys have tried to start-up conversations over the years, and I wasn’t opened or interested, so it didn’t get very far.

But I am sorry, if you are married or in a relationship, I don’t care who you are, I am not interested.

If you are married be married.  If you are in a relationship be in a relationship.  If you are unhappy, then get out of it.

But don’t try to play both sides.  Karma isn’t kind.

And if your name is Rolfe, which I had to ask – um, did you say Ralph??? – well that just doesn’t flow easily off the tongue and it was doomed from the start! hahaha

Seriously, that is the first thought that came to mind when he said – No. Rolfe.

And I am very sorry if your name is Rolfe.

It is a cool name.

I just can’t say it without me tongue getting tied, and it doesn’t go well with Lisa. hahaha


Dating 101: My Starbucks Lover

If you came here for dating advice, you might want to leave.

Like right about, now.

Cuz it all goes downhill from here. hahaha

Late last week I met a really cute guy at Starbucks.

He started talking to me about my car, my S2000.

Lots of dudes talk to me about my car.

My favorite, again at Starbucks, a father and son were walking into the store as I was getting into my car and the father opened the door  and leaned out to say – Miss, my son thinks that is the coolest car!

And the little boy, probably about 6, was standing right behind his dad with a huge grin on his face, nodding his head enthusiastically while giving me two thumbs up.

Or this other time, again at Starbucks, a construction worker was going by and said, “Ma’am that is a really nice car you have.”

I remember being totally impressed that he was so polite and respectfully in his manner and his words.

Oh any way, back to my most recent Starbucks lover.

He’s the one that kept the conversation going, so I obliged and returned conversation.

We talked about S2000s and Jeeps, because his ex had a S2000 and we both used to own Jeeps.

I shared that it is my goal to own a yellow Jeep alongside my yellow S2000.

And he shared how he took his son out in his Jeep to get stuck in the snow on purpose after a huge snow storm when they lived in Canada.

He seemed like a really nice guy so I gave him my business card (new to me) as we parted ways because I didn’t have the time to sit down and enjoy my coffee and breakfast with him like he asked, I was late for work.

He emailed me an hour and half later.  I was kinda surprised that he emailed me so soon.

What surprised me more is what he said!

Hi, (He didn’t even type in my name, red flag!! hahaha)

Enjoyed chatting with you this morning. Snowflakes reminded me of jeeps, which put a smile on my face thinking of your driveway all yellow and topless.

You must be a lot of fun!

Have a great weekend. Maybe I’ll get to see more of you in the future.


Holy snap!  He made me blush, and confused me.

I was like, um, this doesn’t sound like the guy I was speaking with earlier this morning.

I don’t know if emailing someone makes some people bolder or not, but this is precisely why I don’t do the online dating thing.

I don’t have the time or the energy to speaking with dudes in such a way.  I’d rather know what…well anything but this kind of talk with a complete stranger by email.

Now I wouldn’t have been put off by this if this was someone who I actually knew and joked with, but I had only talked with him for about 10 minutes in person.

I replied and according to my sister, because I later had her “analyze” the complete back and forth “conversation,” I was flirty in my responses.

Personally I guess I was, I like to flirt, but really I was trying to keep it light and playful since I have been out of the game for a while and wasn’t sure whether or not I was being too sensitive.

After I shared that he made me blush, his response kinda of took it way too far way too fast for me.

It was something to the effect of, excellent now I have you smiling and blushing and thinking…

He used the word “fun” in all of his emails to the point that I finally said – Dude, I don’t think I am as “fun” as you think I am. hahaha

Even my sister picked up on it and said – If he said how “fun” you must be one more time I was going to have to….

I can’t remember the rest of my responses, but after he kept emailing me I finally said – Dude, aren’t you working?  Cuz I am!!!! hahaha

To which he responded, ok, email me from your personal email account sometime this weekend.

Well I did email him…at 10 pm on Sunday night, because I wasn’t sure I even wanted to.

I said – Well this is still considered the weekend, right?  You know what I do for a living, what do you do?

Lame I know, but it was the best I could come up with.

He never emailed me back.

I guess I wasn’t “fun” anymore.

I can’t say that I am disappointed.

But I do regret sharing this with a co-worker because she’s of the mindset that if I don’t hear back from him by Thursday, which is today, I should email him again.

Um, no.  Times 2.

It is that whole he is just not that into you, and I can’t say that I don’t feel the same.

My co-worker means well, she and my friends and my family would like for me to have someone in my life.

They have wanted that for me for a long time. hahaha

But the cool thing is, now I do too.  I mean for real.

I have half heartily wanted it previously, kinda put myself out there, but not really.

Now I am ready, and the cool part is if you are ready on the inside, the outside really does respond in kind without you even trying.

I am not your typical girl.  I am not looking to get married.  The thought of it freaks me out.

But one day, I think I would like to try it, if we could have separate places and spend the night with each other when we wanted too. hahaha

Maybe it really will happen like I have been telling my grandmother for years – Don’t worry Grandmother, the first 50 years are for me and then I’ll share the other 50 with someone else.

Until then, my first real potential Starbucks lover, not so much!!

Luckily I haven’t run in to him again, and I better not – because that is My Starbucks!!




The Queen of Awkwardness

Yesterday was full of awkward moments for me.

First thing in the morning I met up with a former Starbucks peep.

She and her husband were on my turf which threw me, and it had been over two years since I had last seen her because she changed stores prior to me relocating.

They were waiting to meet with a real estate agent that works next door.

I came out to use the bathroom and taa daa there she was.

She introduced me to her husband, all the while calling me Miss Lisa and sharing how she still remembers how to make my drink….and for the life of me, the whole time, I could not remember her name!

I went to the bathroom, wracking my brain, come on brain, what is her name, I know it is in here and BOOM, I remembered it and was so excited.

Luckily they were still waiting when I came out.

I snapped my fingers, pointed at her and said her name.

Followed by, I bet you thought I forgot your name and were like, psssht, I remembered her name and her drink and she can’t even remember my name!  I told her, it has been over two years and it takes my brain a minute to remember.

All ended well and everyone was happy and felt remembered.

Later in the day, a dude that works for another firm that I have been friendly with over the years caught me off guard again.

This time I was coming up from the parking garage and he pulled up alongside of me in his SUV and rolled down the window.

I thought we were going to have our normal pleasantries, but this time, maybe because we were semi away from the office, he went in to full compliment mode.

Compliment after compliment, which I tried my best to return, but mine were more general and awkward and not directed at him because the whole time I was like, uh oh, he’s going to ask me out and I am not attracted to him like that, I just happen to be a really friendly person.

Perhaps he had false hope because I did actually remember his name and addressed him as such when I first saw him again after being gone for over a year.

His last comment did me in, something to the effect of, You know, I have always had the hots for you.

I didn’t know what to do with that so without thinking I laughing said, I know, and walked away….which my friends opens up a whole other can of awkwardness when we meet up next.

All I can say is, Thank God today is a half day!

And I am not stepping foot out of my office until it is time to go home!! hahaha

All hail The Queen of Awkwardness.



Take Me Out To The Ball Game! (Jose Cuervo Speaking)

Last night I went to my first professional baseball game ever!

And I went kicking and screaming.

Not really, but I was very unenthusiastic about it every step of the way.

I was tired because I get up extremely early.

There was also a huge and looming threat of a gonna happen at any moment rainstorm like you have never seen.

The cherry on top, it took me 40 minutes to get about 7 miles from my home.

But then things turned around.

I ducked into my Starbucks for a pick me up, and the dude hooked me up for free!  I must have looked like I needed it, and he’s my neighbor and said he might need a ride home sometime.

Once back in my car, however, things turned back around and it took me another 25 minutes to get to the meet up place, me dodging crazy rush hour drivers who were trying to take me out left and right.

Once I got to the meet up place, I stood in line a good 15 minutes to buy a pack of gum to break my $20 so I would only spend what I needed to on a metro card.  The sad thing is, there was only one person in front of me AND we hadn’t even made it to the metro area yet.

The game started while I was buying gum, in a place far, far away from the stadium.

My friend and I got on the metro, and no lie, toxic fumes were engulfing the place.  We were contemplating getting off and catching another one at the next stop, although no one else seem to be concerned.

But we stayed the course when the fumes magically dissipated moments before one of us tossed our cookies or passed out.

With a huge and tired sigh I told my friend, I will NEVER do this again.

Ding. You have finally arrived.

Everything changed once we arrived.

The energy, the crown, the big bright *WOW* everywhere….totally awesome!!

Much to her relief, I was actually happy to be there,  and all past moments (read: hours) leading up to our entry was worth it!

We went to the bathroom, toured the whole first floor of the stadium by mistake.

When we finally made it to the second floor, again just wondering about, I hear ~ LISA!  Where the hell have you been??

My boss saw me and my friend on our baseball stadium hike/walk about.  It was the third inning.  And all I said was, where can I get that damn margarita???

With drinks in hand, the food hunting came next!  I am all about having my priorities straight.

We wanted a cheeseburger, and of course, that would be the place with the longest freaking line!

No worries, we made friends.

Some dude was admiring my Starbucks hat as he happens to be an avid Starbucks fan too.  I told him to email me his address and I would mail him my extra hat, the black one my Starbucks peep gave me that I will never wear.  So he did and was extremely happy and grateful.

My friend tugged on me and said, Did you give him your phone number???

Um no.  Just my email address so I can mail him my extra hat.

Good because I was like, Lisa so doesn’t do that!

He was kinda cute, very courteous and hopefully we made his night!  He’s not my type, and my only wish is that he and his new Starbucks hat find great happiness together.

Seventh inning, and our butts finally sit in our seats, which I might add were very removed from the rest of the group!!  I knew that chick who set this up didn’t like me!!!

I am just glad my boss saw me, since they paid for everything, because no one else from my firm ever knew I was there.  Speaking of which, I am going to have to ask about that whole seating arrangement thing today.

We watched an inning and a half and then raced the crowd back to the metro, where we spent a good amount of time with the rest of the early leavers lets beat the crowd.

I finally made it home by 11pm.  My goal was 10pm.  But hey, what can you do.

BUT, it really was such an awesome experience!!  It took a lot of effort to get to and fro, and I am not sure I’d ever do it again unless it was free, and even then I am still on the fence, but it definitely was so worth adding to my ~ Why yes, I have done that before list!

TGIF is all I can say!  I need to recover.  I’d call in sick if I could.

And my other co-worker hasn’t confirmed our Old Rag Mountain hike for tomorrow.

If he does, I am gonna see how he feels about Sunday hiking, as I don’t think I could do it tomorrow unless push comes to shove and I’d be bitching the whole way.

Unless I saw a bear or snake, then I would push him to the side, run like crazy AND bitch the whole way!

Photo portion of the post ~ Hanging with Jose, and Adanna, and I don’t know how to work my iPhone camera anyway so I almost didn’t make it in the shot, but serious guys, I was there…




PS ~ When I laid my head on my pillow last night, my last words were…Thanks God, for a really cool night.






Tea with Oprah

Teavana and Oprah have teamed up and are selling tea at Starbucks.

I don’t drink tea.

However, I have had a feeling that Oprah and Starbucks would one day work together so I was pleasantly surprised when this initiative was rolled out.

I admire Oprah a lot.

I look at her and I am simply amazed that one person, a black female at that, can do all that she has done in her lifetime.

And she’s not even finished yet.

I hope it is ok to say black.

I never know if that is ok or not, and if it is not, I mean no disrespect.

To me, the coolest part of it all, the quotes by Oprah printed on the hot beverage sleeve covers.

I don’t buy hot drinks either, so I would have never noticed the messages had not one been slipped onto my frap.

I read it and was inspired.

“The only courage you ever need is the courage to live the life you want.” – Oprah Winfrey

The message was timely, that is why I was inspired.

I thought that was the only message, until one day I was waiting for my frap and read another one.

I didn’t take it.  I just read it and was impressed with the multiple quotes being doled out with each cup of coffee (or tea).

Yesterday, another sleeve was slipped onto my frap, again with a timely message.

“Live from the heart of yourself.  Seek to be whole, not perfect.” – Oprah Winfrey

I like to think of them as signs since they were given to me.

And I carry both of them in my purse.

So if you happen to be at a Starbucks today, perhaps you might want to have a cup of tea, coffee or frap with Oprah.

Or check her out online ~ Steep Your Soul

And you’ll find another amazing woman, among others…..



Team. Work. Good Things Happen When You Don’t Lose Your Cool.

This morning I was feeling pretty proud of myself!

I was leaving the house early with plenty of time to stop to get gas AND swing by Starbucks.

99.1% of the time I am on time, if not early, to wherever I need to be.

But for some reason, I have been showing up to work 5 minutes late here, ten minutes late there.

I think that happens after the thrill of tax season is over.

I still get up early.

I just do a lot of things around my house in the morning and then realize. Oh Crap, I gotta go!

Recently I exclaimed to my boss, I am gonna get my act together and start getting here on time!

He hadn’t even said anything.

So this morning, as I said, I was pleased as punch because I was going to do all that I needed to do and maybe even get to work a few minutes early!

I was happy for about five feet.

That’s when I hit the traffic jam at the Let Us Out (!!!) gate.

The exit gate of my building’s garage wasn’t working this morning and there was a backup.

Poor dude in front of me pulled up, backed up, repositioned his car, and pulled back up again.

It’s triggered by your car.

He even got out and tried to manually lift the gate.


The thing wouldn’t budge.

So me, being the brilliant and I so can’t be late anymore person that I am….I backed up and zipped right up to the entrance gate.

The dude swiped his card for me, and Taa Daa, it worked!

He helped another car out after me, and I pulled over to help him get through.

No one else was present to see our spectacular escape, so there might still be a traffic jam in the exit lane when we all get home.

And that is how you work with complete strangers and get it done!

Team. Work.

Karma was kind to me today in return.

Free upgrade at Starbucks this morning!

And later in the day, a regifted gift card to Starbucks from my boss!

Woo hoo!

Life is good as long as you don’t lose your cool when trapped inside your own parking garage.

Oh No You Didn’t!!!!

I received the worst compliment in my life this past Monday morning.

Due to the snow, a co-worker who is the boss’s daughter, picked up another co-worker and myself in her oh yeah, I own an SUV and have four-wheel drive baby vehicle!

As a thank you I offered to buy her a coffee and breakfast at Starbuck’s.

Not only did I personally want Starbucks, I also like to thank my snow drivable vehicle heroes so they will be inclined to pick me up again should I need it in the future since winter doesn’t seem to want to leave.

Anyway, this is the family that everyone and their brother are convinced that I am a part of, to now include a Starbuck’s barista.

The barista said, “I know you are probably mother and daughter, but I swear you could pass for sisters!!

Hello, she called me the mother of a twenty something year old!!

Now technically it is possible, but please!

Needless to say, I will never ever ever go back to that Starbucks. hahaha

My newish Starbucks on the other hand…..recently I finally got a Miss and Lisa in the same sentence, plus a sweetie in between.

Even better, they ALL know my drink.

Now that I can work with!

And I won’t be taking my co-worker/boss’s daughter/long-lost sister/occasional daughter anywhere else with me for quite some time. hahaha


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