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It Happened. I Got Sick.

It is my own d@mn fault.

And maybe, or maybe not, at least two of my co-workers.


I like to share the glory.

One co-worker had been sick for a little over two weeks, and we are talking sick as in S-I-C-K.

Yet day after day, he showed up for work.

I told him ~ Dude.  If I get sick because of you…I will kick your @ss!!

The new receptionist came to work three days in a row, at the end of the week before last, feeling really under the weather.

Because she is new she didn’t want to call in sick, even tho I warned her, after telling her to really take a day or two off if she needed it – If I get sick because of you, you will be the one driving this boat on your own!!

My fault in the mix, I didn’t take the best care of myself.

I was so focused and determined on meeting the Jan 31st deadline.

Almost every day, the receptionist would ask me – Have you eaten, are you going to eat??!!

I’d go all day without eating, and then I’d go home and eat Ramen noodles for dinner.


I recently rediscover beef flavored Ramen noodles, after 10+ years, and I am addicted.

I am not sure why I picked them up, but I am glad I did.

They are…Easy. Quick. Tasty.

And did I mention quick?

My dinner was ready in 5 minutes flat each night!!!

#Heaven for a single gal.

I must admit, not the healthiest of diets, nor the best of ideas, for a couple of weeks pretty much straight, but hey, the things you learn in hindsight (mind blowing!).

I made a “Note to Self” and read it daily – Find healthy ways to dress up this soup so you are getting protein and veggies into your diet too!!!

I haven’t made it that far yet.

It is still on my list.

But I am on it!

As a result of my previously mentioned self made poor choices, which I made during a pretty busy time for me, and maybe (read: most likely cuz I really do wash my hands constantly and rarely get this sick!!!)…I  have been, wait for it, throwing up all weekend!

Oh.  I also feel quite crappy, achy, and all that jazz too.  I am asleep more than I am awake.

Personally, I’d give anything for a coke right about now.

However, that would require me leaving my home, and um, maybe I will try that later today.

Drinking lots of water doesn’t necessarily sit well with an upset stomach.

But wait!

There’s more.

My cats must have felt left out.

Each of them decided to throw up this morning too.

Which truth be told, almost made me throw up again when I had to clean it up!

Thank God for hard wood floors.

Easy and quick clean up.

Hardwood floors beat carpeted floors hands down.  Every time.


Maybe there is something in the water.

That is the only thing the three of us share.


Wishing you are yours nothing but health and wellness.

And oh, keep washing those hands and stay away from sick people!

One more thing.

Have a much better diet going on than I have been keeping…

And for goodness sake…


















Did You Ride?

Texting Convo…

Me: Did you ride?

Co-worker:  Don’t ask.  I feel like a total dumb @ss.  I brought my battery, helmet and tools today.  I got to your garage at 3:30pm with a big smile.  Then I realized, I did NOT have my motorcycle key!!!!  I slapped myself and left.  “Story of my life.”

Me:  And to think, I was upstairs sleeping and had one of your motorcycle keys. hahahaha



I checked.  He did not try to contact me to see if I was home to give him the extra key.

And with good reason.

I told him on Friday, I cannot wait for tomorrow.  I do not want to see or talk to another human being all day.

I’ve been busy at work, and I have no problem with that at all.

BUT, if I do not get a little me time alone, this is not going to end well for anyone. hahahaha

I never know when I will run into my co-worker or my co-worker and his wife in my parking garage.

He is storing his bike with mine for the winter because he does not have garage parking.

I have one of his keys if I need to move his bike, and he has one of mine because he takes (GREAT) care of my bike when doing anything with his.

We’ve gone out to lunch a couple of times where I have paid for his lunch.

He gets all up in arms, because I have learned how to slyly pay for the meal before he realizes what has happened, which provokes him to exclaim how he will never go to lunch with me again if I keep doing that!!

Co-worker: Why did you do that?

Me: Because you do a lot to take care of my Harley (Last weekend, he changed the oil in both of our motorcycles, and his wife stopped by Harley to pick up the extra oil I needed and paid for because she works near the dealership and it is out of my way to go there.  And yes, you can only buy the d@mn oil and oil filter at a dealership and not online. Grrrrr.).

Co-worker: I do not do any of this because of you.  I do it because I like working on things.

Me: I don’t give a shit why you do it.  I just need you to keep doing it.  It is about give and take.  You do stuff for me, I do stuff for you and yours.  It would get old pretty damn fast if you always do stuff for/on my bike and receive nothing in return.

Co-worker:  But you let me park my motorcycle in your garage.

Me: Whatever.  Shut up and eat your d@mn free lunch.  And take this to your wife.

Like I said before, I have been busy at work.

Last weekend I worked on work projects from home on Saturday and Sunday.

And, I ran into my co-worker in my garage on Saturday and Sunday as well.

We worked on things while his wife went shopping at the mall.  He is not pleased with that part and wants to find her a new hobby. hahahaha

Then a whole week of being busy at work, getting home each night a little later, and taa daa, here we are at today.

I worked from home 5:30am to 9:30am this morning, returned a phone call to one of my bosses (took only 3 seconds to answer the question but still ruined my not speaking or seeing another human being all day goal. hahahaha).

I made something to eat, ate, and then slept until 4:30pm.

I guess I was far more drained then I realized.

I could not have helped my co-worker anyway had he reached out because I turned my ringer off.

The new receptionist (who is awesome beyond belief!) has been feeling sick for the last three days.

I told her multiple times, if you are not feeling well, you need to take a day off.  If I get sick, you’ll be the one driving this boat!

She has since informed me ~ You CANNOT get sick or take any vacation days for a full year.

I told her ~ You’ve got until June lovey.  Then Mama is headed to CA to see her family (FINALLY in CA).  It has only taken me 4+ years and paying for 3 d@mn plane tickets to get out there!

Truth be known, the receptionist (who is a former Executive Assistant) will be more than fine.  She is such a smart, organized, personable and quick study young lady.

She may even replace me before I return from my CA trip to see my fam.

I may or may not have picked something up from being around her, sickness wise.

My solution is always ~ eat, sleep, recharge and only take medicine if really needed.

Hopefully on Monday, I will be right as rain.

I’ll work again tomorrow from home at some point because I get a lot done when I am alone, and we are approaching a January 31st deadline.

Bottom line ~ I do not care if my co-worker or my co-worker and his wife show up tomorrow in my parking garage.

I am not leaving my home.

Mama has officially extending her ~ I do not want to have contact with another human being, in any form, on Sunday either.

I really hope he remembers to bring his motorcycle key this time!! hahahaha





I Am Sooooo Going to Be Burning the Midnight Oil Tonight!

But you know what?

I am cool with that.

I brought home 3 work projects for the weekend that I wanted to complete.

I am going to be able to pull off two of the three, with the third one being completed tomorrow while in the office.

Again, I am cool with that.

I always think I can do so much at home on a weekend…but then my life butts in and I am like – Oh, that is right.  I have other things to do to be a completely well-rounded individual who has to do everything for herself because she has no partner! hahahaha

This weekend I have been in heaven, times ten.

I haven’t gotten so much done in my home in such a loooooooong time.

I moved into my new condo a month and a half ago, and to date, I hadn’t done much outside of the basics (unpack items needed for true survival).

But, holy cow, now I finally feel so complete and centered and happy since I have been actively making my place MY place.

This is the first weekend in such a loooong time that I actually left my home and drove anywhere.

And normally I LOVE DRIVING!

But with commuting daily for work in the DC area, which really is up there with the commute/traffic of NY & LA, usually once I arrive home on a Friday, I do not leave again until Monday.

There are so many great things that I hope to pull off for my home in the next few weeks/months.  I cannot wait to share!

And there are so many more great things I hope to learn in the next few years to further my career and shape my future.

Long story short, sometime you need to “play hooky” to bring your VERY BEST self to the table.


Listen To Your Heart, Sharpen Your Mind & Pay Attention to Your Body

I was re-inspired to pick up my lifelong learning tendency again.

I’ve been studying audio books again since December 2015, because what else are you supposed to do when you are sitting in 2 hours of daily traffic to and fro work, you know that traffic you are not supposed to be sitting in because that was not part of the hiring agreement .

Sorry I digress, that is a very sore spot for me.

And that was complaining and bitching. hahaha

Anyhow, I have been studying audio book since December 2015.

The topics I have studied include: Inspiration, Spirituality, Health, Fitness, Self-Development, Money and Business.

I have purchased and listened to 47 books.   And some of them I have listened to many times over.

My focus for the last 9 plus months has been on business.

In particular, I have been studying extremely successful WOMEN and really taking heed in what they have to say.

One of the more recent studies was Nice Girls Don’t Get The Corner Office by Lois Frankel.

Boy did she give me a lot to think about.

She totally blew my plans out of the water by making complete sense as to why I will not get to where I want to go on my current path.

In March, I will be turning 46 and I thought I’d be making $100k by that age.

That may sound like a lot of money, unless you live in the DC metro area and you are the sole-provider for your present and future living conditions and you presently rent so your cost of living increase annually.

In my vision, the $100k didn’t necessarily have to come from one source.

I am not lazy and could work on the side doing bookkeeping or so many other things for others.

But with my current job, commute and maybe even industry – that is not possible.

Frankel pointed out that many women earn certificates or degrees while working but cannot move up where they work once they complete their studies because they have been type cast and are only needed for the position they have been hired to fill.

She also shared that the new norm for those who want to move up is to work for a company for three to five years, learn all that you can and do everything you can for them….and move to another company with a higher position.

Gone are the days that you stay somewhere for your working career, unless of course you have made it to the top, then by all means stay and reap what you have sown and enjoy!

I’ve been with my current company, two different times and positions, for a total of five years.

I’ve learned a lot, and I feel like I have given a lot in return.

Now I want more, but not necessarily more in the way of duties.

I keep getting more and new things to do at work and that is awesome!

Slight problem, these additions are on top of what I was already doing.

So.  That is where I am.

My heart says, I want and can do far more.

My mind says, I am open and keep learning.

My body says, girl, you better get me back in shape!  Don’t you know it helps in all areas of life to be fit and attractive?

My broken foot last year and my love for margaritas have totally dorked up my body!

My focus now, due to tax season, is doing the best job possible at work while focusing on body (fitness and health) too.

That is about all I will have time for until all is said and done aka Tax Day Deadline.

And then we shall see what I can do with the rest of 2017.













A Little Slice of Heaven

In this moment in time, I am in heaven.

I am sipping a margarita with an iTunes playlist playing softly in the background as I read some RSS FitBit articles, review a couple DailyOm emails and watch a few Ted Talks about business and personal growth.

Then a thought hit me.

I do not know many people who are able to experience this peace.

People I know…they have a spouse or they have children or perhaps a roommate.

They are pretty much never alone.

Me.  I like being alone and it is quite peacefully right now.

My essential oil diffuser is running, giving off a lovely lavender scent.  It also sounds like a small trickling waterfall.

On Friday, I shut down my computer at work when I left so there would be no way I could remote in to do or check……anything.

Not that anyone asks me to do anything outside of the normal work week hours.  It was an internal urge….I wanted to stay on top of things and get ahead.  It wasn’t working.  So I let it go.

I also deleted both my personal and work email accounts off of my phone on Friday.

Then today I went one step further – I totally turned my cell – OFF.

I let go of the fear that something bad would happen if I shut my phone off and was unreachable…because I remembered, everyone I know has a partner to help out if something happens.

This weekend I became a quitter.  On purpose.

For one weekend, I quit!

Work, family, friends, anything…I quit knowing that all would get along fine without me.

I must admit, quitting feels pretty good, and um, peaceful.

I can read. I can write. I can paint.  I can ride my motorcycle.  I can love on Kennedy and Mozzie.  I can lounge.  I can rearrange my home.  I can watch self-created TV show marathons on Netflix.

In short, I can straight up wallow in my heaven, do anything in the world that I want, happy as a lark, and re-energize myself.

AKA, I will have more to share with others on the other side.

My wish for you is that you too can experience this little slice of heaven for yourself one day.

Totally mind-blowing.


The Crush

Holy wow!  I cannot believe so much time has passed since I last posted.

A lot has happened.

My grandmother passed away, the receptionist resigned to pursue a job more in line with her goals and I pretty much did the work of two people to get the firm I work for through the October 15th tax deadline.

Luckily we did find someone rather quickly to become the new receptionist.  But when you are new, there is only so much you can do.  She did catch onto our phone system quickly, and that was a tremendous help!

All of that led me to unknowingly showing up to sign up for classes two days past the start date, so alas – I am not taking classes right now.  I wasn’t able to join late, even though it was only two days.

But, after all I have been through; this is really not such a bad thing.

Such is life.  The classes will be there on the next start date.

Let’s hope I make it there in time! hahaha

Right now I am struggling with a different decision.

Here’s what woke me up Thursday morning….in my dream I was frantically driving my S2000 trying to find my way home after one hell of a day. I drove between what I thought were two narrow construction barriers. But the space kept narrowing and I discovered I was in between two semi trucks. They inched forward four paces – 1. 2. 3. 4. Each time coming closer together and each pace crushed my car more with me very aware what was happening, but the truck drivers didn’t know. I woke up right before the next pace forward which would have sandwich crushed me and my car completely. Um. So not cool that this is the last thing I dreamed before waking up.


I posted my dream and the picture on Facebook and a couple of friends pointed out, um, I think you have too much stress going on in your life right now.

I looked up the meaning of my dream on Google, which I do if a dream sticks with me so vividly.  For me, it makes sense that dreams consolidate and process information gathered.  It is your brain trying to solve something when the fully conscious mind is at rest.

The meanings I found:

The action of crushing anything in your dream indicates that you are under tension and/or pressure in regard to making an important decision.

If you dream that a part of your body is being crushed, then it suggests that you are being prevented to full express yourself.

I think both of these fit my situation.

I love my job.  And I enjoy the people I work with.

But the commuting is crushing my spirit and pretty much making me an asshole when in traffic.  I now have little patience or tolerance for slow drivers, and I really don’t like being so aggressive.

When I signed on to return to working for my current firm, my two must were: return me to my former salary and during non-tax season allow me to come in early and leave early to avoid traffic.  My main pitch was, I don’t want to spend my life in rush hour traffic.

The sad thing is that I only live 12.5 miles from my job, yet I spend 7 – 7.5 hours a week going to and fro.  That is almost an entire work day’s worth of hours spent commuting each week.  That is depressing.

In the end it didn’t work out well for me to come in early and leave early during non-tax season.  My job is kind of really need to be on-site during business hours kind of job.

Even shifting my hours to coming in an hour later and leaving an hour later still has me with the 7 – 7.5 hours a week going to and fro commute.

I have been doing this for 2 and half years.

So this is where I am now…What do I do from here?

I am still trying to figure it out.

Maybe a less disturbing dream will happen tonight to shed some light on my situation.

Something warm and fuzzy…



My Bummed Foot. I’ll Take It!

Last Tuesday I ushered in my birthday in a setting that I haven’t been in since my actual birth day, in the presence of a doctor.

I seem to have dorked up my foot.

This is my foot the night before my birthday…

Exhibit A: The Foot

The Foot

My foot got that big both Sunday and Monday night because I was working and it is tax season, which means I have to move around to get stuff done.

I cried myself to sleep both of those nights because it hurt so badly. So badly that at times I seriously thought my foot would explode.

The previous Friday I had gone to my regular doctor and she sent me to the hospital to have x-rays done.

Nothing was found so she told me to rest, ice it, elevate it, and stay off it as much as I could. She also told me to come back in a week if it hadn’t gotten any better.

Fast forward two days later, Sunday night, Exhibit A above, and I would say that things were going downhill fast.

First thing Monday morning I found and made an appointment with a podiatrist. The earliest they could see me was first thing Tuesday morning (aka my birthday).

I went and they did x-rays too. The doctor couldn’t find anything either so he sent me to get an MRI. Although he couldn’t find anything, he saw my foot in all of its glory and knew something was wrong.

They wrapped my foot in a soft cast and ace bandages and put a huge boot on it (which I am still wearing to this day and might have to for the next TWO MONTHS).

Exhibit B: The Boot

The Boot

Tuesday, my birthday, which I keep saying because it is so not fair this was all going down on my birthday, the only good thing about that day was that I was required to stay home and rest.

I had the MRI done Wednesday morning. It showed that I have a break running left to right in my 3rd metatarsal. Check out the diagram.

Exhibit C: The Foot Diagram


Now. I have never broken anything. And this is slight versus a broken arm or leg or something.

But let me tell you. It still is uncomfortable and really gets in the way of business as usual.

No FitBit challenges. Difficulty driving. Walking funny and dorking up my hip(s) alignment.

And let’s not even talk about how long it takes me to shower or how I have to do yoga in the shower trying to keep my leg dry just to get clean.

It has only been a week and I am done.

Yesterday at work I was having a smoke. Taking a break for a sec. Thinking about how much this sucked and how badly I wanted to be back to normal.

I saw a couple walking into a restaurant.

The man had one of his legs amputated above the knee and was walking with hand crutches.

In that moment in time I told God – I am good. I’ll take me bummed foot and work with it!

So no more complaining for me.

Currently I am inconvenienced.

But this is not permanent.

And for that I am TRULY grateful.

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