Someone I cared a great deal about passed away yesterday.
And he was 100% good people.
This is the year I’d like to open myself up to having a relationship.
I mean for real.
I have been single for 10 or 11 years.
Yep. You heard me right. I am like a born again virgin.
I have had some dates over the years, but I have not been intrigued enough by anyone to want to do anything about it.
There for a while I even had the opportunity of being “Mrs. Robinson.”
I tried it out a couple of times, but it didn’t work for me. It is not my style, although, it was extremely flattering.
I have become quite comfortable being single.
And it took a while, but now those closest to me are comfortable with me being single too.
I think that shift happened in the last few years.
It is just a given, Lisa is single.
Before my dating hiatus, I had two long-term relationships, back to back, with one year off in-between.
My exes wanted what most people want – marriage, kids, etc. I didn’t.
There are other reasons the relationships didn’t work out, but the underlying theme was simple – we each wanted different things and envisioned different futures.
Both of my exes are married now, and I believe one has children.
I recently found out that my first ex waited to get married until the fall of 2014.
That brought me comfort.
He took his time, like I have.
He is the one that got away in my world.
I wouldn’t change anything. Things did not work out for a reason.
But he is the one I have cared for the most in my life.
As for me, I have made a couple of false starts of maybe wanting to date again.
But now I think I am ready, now as in on the other side of tax season.
Last month I was extremely busy with a January 31st deadline.
I remember waking up one morning at 3:30 am thinking about work – I need to do this, I need to do that, this needs to changed and oh, don’t forget that other thing!!
And then I thought – Holy Cow! I need to get a life!!
And that is when I started thinking about how nice it would be to be in a relationship again.
So on the other side of tax season, I will seriously get out, get involved and meet new people, because I could use more friends too.
If I wake up and do not have coffee in the house, I will go without until I get to work.
If I wake up and do not have creamer, I will take that coffee black thank you.
If I run out of toilet paper, I will use napkins in the meantime.
If I do not have margarita mix in the evening, I will forgo my nightly margarita.
If I only have very small pieces of my soap bar left, although I will seriously consider using my hand soap dispenser, I will eventually make do with my very small pieces of the soap bar.
If there is only a spit of shampoo or conditioner left, I will add water and shake vigorously to get on with my shower.
If I come home and have nothing to make for dinner, I will turn my back up can of black beans on top of rice with cheddar cheese and consider it a feast.
If I wake up and do not have the morning can of fancy feast wet cat food for my cats to split, you will find me at the grocery store as early as 5:00 am buying said wet cat food.
Happens all the time.
Most recently, this morning.
But hey, they are happy and I feel accomplished! hahaha
Monday morning I did something I never thought I would do.
For years, five to be precise, a handful close to me have tried to encourage me to try online dating.
Nope not for me.
Well Monday morning I decided to give a go.
That’s a pretty big deal in my world.
But I am trying to change things up, do things differently, explore and say yes to life more.
First off, I will never be able to be facebook friends with anyone I may meet on this online dating journey, nor tell them about my blog because I’ll be sharing the journey with you and I am pretty sure that might not be so cool in their eyes. hahahaha
But seriously, I won't speak about specific gents, just my side of experiences.
When you set up your profile (and mine is not complete yet) you begin by adding a picture and writing something about yourself.
This is my initial pic –
I copy and pasted my about me page from my blog and answered five questions.
I can’t remember any of the questions except the first one.
Are you ok with someone being messy?
The last step was to pick three profile pictures to gauge the type of guys you find attractive.
There were guys ages 26 to 66 or there about.
I am not going to lie; a lot of those 30 something year old dudes caught my eye.
But alas I stayed within my age range; I didn’t want to come across as a creeper.
I didn’t realize the profile pictures I was looking at were real, but good news, one of the dudes I liked liked me back.
Now I have to go back and fill out the rest of my profile because they don’t know…like how tall I am, or what I am looking for, or my horoscope sign and so forth. hahahaha
But what is really cool, a dude I liked based solely on his picture turned out to be is 49, drives a Harley, drives a jeep (I think according to the pic), rock climbs, doesn’t have children, and oh yeah, he’s hot.
I am not saying we would mesh, but I find it intriguing that there are good-looking dudes out there with similar interests as me that had I not gotten out of my comfort zone and tried online dating, I potentially would never meet.
In 24 hours I have received 141 likes (that’s better than anything I have ever gotten on facebook!!!! hahahaha) and 18 messages.
Now 90% of those will probably do nothing for me, but it still makes a gal feel good after being out of the game for so long.
Oh, and now I REALLY have incentive to get my body back in tip-top shape as soon as possible!! hahahaha
The moral of the story…don’t poo poo what you have never tried BUT only try it if and when you are ready.
Don’t go with your song still inside you. Let it guide you every day.
Those are some of the lyrics to the song played at the end of The Shift.
It is so catchy and fun that if I can’t find it for sale somewhere, I will have to record it.
Side note, I found it!
Check it out – Song Inside You by Ethan Lipton & His Orchestra.
Now I just need to find it on iTunes and Hello Happiness!
The Shift is a movie starring Dr. Wayne Dyer, as well as, Michael DeLuise, Portia de Rossi, Ed Kerr and Shannon Sturges.
The Shift explores the intertwined lives of an overachieving businessman ( Edward Kerr) and his estranged wife (Portia de Rossi), a mother of two young children seeking her own expression in the world (Shannon Sturges), and a film director trying to make a name for himself (Michael DeLuise).
Filmed on coastal California’s spectacular Monterey Peninsula, The Shift captures every person’s mid-life longing for a more purposeful, soul-directed life and Dr. Dyer shares his wisdom throughout the movie.
Dr. Wayne Dyer passed away about a month ago.
And I still can’t seem to get my head around it, he was so young.
I thought he would be one of those people who would make it to at least 100, if not longer.
I first found Dr. Dyer back in 2002.
Since then I have read many of his books and listened to many of his audio and TV programs. Many of which were shared for free on public television.
I even saw him in person twice, once in NY and once in DC.
I gotta be honest. I still can’t wrap my mind around everything he taught, but I was able to wrap my heart around much of it.
I miss him as if I knew him and I am grateful that he was here.
Should you be interested, Hay House is featuring his movie for free at present (until the end of September, I think) as a tribute to his life and his life’s work.
Here is the link – The Shift
“You are only one thought away from changing your life.” – Dr. Wayne Dyer
Friendship is a beautiful gift.
What is neat, I can be friends with almost anyone.
Even more important, so can you.
I have a friend who is 23.
We went to Atlantic City, met up with some other friends, and danced the night away.
I have a friend who is 26.
We attended a SUP (stand up paddleboard) yoga class. We will also be going surfing and are working on doing a half marathon together.
I have a friend who is in her thirties.
We have experienced a trapeze class, done a Spartan race, run a couple of other races together. We have also taken a painting class, done numerous walks and hikes AND just learned how to grill out for the first time together.
I have a friend who just turned the Big 4.0.
As much as we have been able, annually we do the same 10k together. Although this last time I complained the whole way, when I could breathe that is.
I have a friend who is two years younger than me, my sister.
Best friend ever and 42 years of adventures together that is still unfolding.
I have a friend who is slightly older than my parents.
I spent the weekend with her and we went parasailing. We also shared great meals prepared by her, and wonderful conversations.
Speaking of parents, I am pretty great friends with them too! The list is way too long to share all of our experiences together here.
Moral of the story, friendship is a beautiful gift. They enriched our lives. They make us flourish. They connect us and help us grow.
And friendships have no age limits.
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