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Chapter 10: More Than Good Intensions. How to Adapt to New & Difficult Situations

I really cannot express how much of a positive impact this book has made on my life as of late….

Willpower Doesn’t Work.  Discover the Hidden Keys to Success by Benjamin Hardy.

I found out about his book as a bi-product of listening to and studying two other sources.

His book and thoughts have flipped most previously self-help resources I have studied on their head.

It is real. It is practical. And it is logical.

The most telling result – I cannot sit still while or after listening to any part of his book.

That really hasn’t ever happened, EVERY SINGLE TIME after listening to any book or reading anything.

I have his book as an audio book on both on my iPhone and iPod.

I only have to hear the man speak for 5 minutes and I am up and being extremely productive, taking care of things I have been procrastinating about completing for so long!

Chapter 10….How to adapt to any environment no matter how difficult…become an adaptive learner.

  1. Have faith (not religious, a personal conviction) that you can adapt and change…aka…have The Growth Mindset, become a flexible learner.
  2. Commit 100% to the change you seek, be willing to change who you are to uphold/achieve your goals.
  3. Learn to develop tolerance to the things you fears most.
  4. Learn how to tolerate and embrace unpleasant emotions…directly expose yourself to your fears and resistance.

And that is just the beginning of Chapter 10.

“Control your environment rather than allowing it to control you.”

“Lessons will repeat themselves until they are learned.”

If you want to go to the next level, be willing to start over and over and over again until you learn what you need to learn to advance to the next level.

A personal mantra I have gleamed from Benjamin Hardy’s book ~ Make my mind adaptable to any circumstance.

Many people knock self-help resources.

But as long as I am here – I want to be growing, changing, evolving, and experiencing all that life holds for me.

Yes even the this totally sucks stuff (I’ve got some of that going on right now).

Why?

Because, all of life – the good, bad and ugly is what makes me, me and what makes you, you.

For better or worse, everything, all of it, really does make life worth living and something to be appreciated.

It also creates the desire to strive and create something better for you and yours.


Dear Google

Dear Google,

How do you delete songs from your iPhone?

What is the difference between a blender and a Nutribullet?

Can you wash bed pillows in the washer machine?

What color is healthy poop?

What house plants are safe for cats?

How can you tell if you are adequately hydrated?

What time does Home Depot open on Saturdays?

Where the hell does a city girl buy hay?  (Side note, a DIY suggestion, to remove harmful paint fumes & the new paint smell…place a pan of damp hay in the room and re-wet as needed).

How much should I weigh for my height?

Which is it…..gray or grey?

How long does it take to learn how to play a guitar?

What does it take to become a CPA?

How many licks does it take to get to the center of a Tootsie pop?

Why do ac units leak and how do you fix it?

How many weeks are in a year?

What is an American Wave perm?

Do vitamins really work?

What is the most lucrative part-time work?

How do you remove a hard drive from a laptop?

When does menopause finally start?

Does recycling glass and plastic really work, or do these items really go to the dump too?

How long does plastic surgery last?

How much rent can I get for my condo?

What should the air pressure be in the tires of my Harley?

What is the appropriate and acceptable age difference of an older woman dating a younger man?

Where were you when I was in school and could have used help writing term papers?

How do I reinvent myself?  I am ready for something….else, new, different.  I am ready to grow.

Thanks for your help,

Lisa

 


Thinking Outside of the Box

Memorial Day Weekend I did A LOT of thinking and research on so many things.

I am constantly thinking, evaluating, learning and bent on taking control of my life in order to create a life that brings me….what?

First and foremost, fulfillment.

Then tack on some peace, gratitude, love, pride, awe, and happiness.

I would put love first.

Well I guess I do.

Love for myself.

And I absolutely love my cats too.

I love people too, especially my family.

Sometimes I have thought about adopting a child, a little girl.

I would love to play a role in shaping the next generation, giving her all the tools that I have had to learn (and am still learning) daily.

Number one, I cannot afford to raise a child on my own.

Number two, I am still working on myself.

As for romantic love, in the last 8 years, I have only found two men intriguing.

One is married, as in long time married and he loves being married, with kids, whom he also loves very much.

The other has never been married, but he is deeply ingrained in his ex’s life and with her family too.

Both are a (BIG) no no for me.

I am not saying I had a shot with either of them, nor have I acted on my attraction(s).

I am not stupid.

Karma is a bitch.

I tested it once when I was younger and “stole” someone away from another.

They weren’t married.  I would not do that.  I’d rather be alone.

I ended up in a long-term (6 years) relationship with him, and it was one of the most damaging and unhealthy relationships for me/to me.

I haven’t dated anyone since.

So I have focused on my career, which at present does not have as much traction as I was hoping for at this point in my life.

But all is not said and done.

Like I said, I have been doing A LOT of thinking and research on so many things.

Not just over Memorial Day weekend, but for months now.

I have visions.  I have dreams.  And I have great potential.

I just need the right mentor because along side of all of this, I have an insatiable appetite for learning and growing.

These days I am thinking outside of the box.

I want to be in the C-Suite.

I thrive in smaller firms.

I have a lot to learn.

I am willing to put in the time.

God willing I still have 20-25 work years left in me.

And somewhere out there is the perfect match.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


Holy Bleep!  I am a Princess, a Real Life Princess!

I have not watched a Royal wedding before.

Not start to finish.

I did not watch Prince William and Kate Middleton’s wedding even though I thought/think they are a great match and are very much in love.

In the past, I have been more than happy to watch the highlights on the nightly news shows.

And I did not set out to watch Harry and Meghan’s wedding today either.

I woke up at 5:30 am, like normal, and turned on the TV.

And there it was – streaming live.

I thought I’d have it on in the background and go about things on my computer.

I was wrong.

I was sucked in like almost everyone else, and happily so.

I didn’t get a thing done on my computer because I was hooked to my TV for 4.5 hours.

4.5 hours!

At times, I had tears streaming down my face, and I even found myself thinking….I want to get married.

Um.  That is unheard of in my world.  I am not the marrying type.  At least that has not been a “goal” of mine to date.

And that thought didn’t just pop into my head (and maybe even into my heart this time too) because of today’s ceremony and all of the regal and “royalness” going on.

It stemmed from the connection Meghan and Harry share.

These two people together are very special on so many levels, in my opinion.

I think they are going to do a lot of good in the world together.

I have never been married, so I am not sure I really have a wise say in the matter, but, I really do think that getting married in your 30s (or later) is perfect.

In doing so, each person has had the time to “live a life” on their own, as well as define who they are.  And in doing so, each person really does have something to share with the other.

The fact that Meghan and Harry are in love, for real, wow, that makes this union just about perfect for/to me.

Not to mention the fact that I would love to date (and/or marry) an English or Australian man just to hear him talk! hahaha

Now that really has been a goal of mine for as long as I can remember, not the marrying part, but the being in a loving relationship with an English or Australian man. hahahaha

For real.

I could listen to him talk about…just about almost anything,…and I could do so for…um, just about forever.

Meghan and Harry are changing the British monarchy without even trying.  They are changing it by being who they each are, and by being in love and uniting.

But.

I could not help but to think on many occasions during the event, Meghan and her mom, at some point or another (or many), had to have the thought…

Meghan: Holy Bleep!  I am a Princess, a Real Life Princess!

Doria (Meghan’s mom): Holy Bleep!  My daughter is a Princess, a Real Life Princess!

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I am sure they don’t cuss, but that is how it played out in my head.

Meghan walking herself down the aisle was priceless and powerful.

You go girl.

For Real.

If I ever get married, I am walking (or rolling) myself down the aisle.

I  really do wish them the best of the VERY best in their life together.

I look forward to seeing what they create together in the years to come.

PS – Her mom has a nose ring, teaches yoga and is a social worker….um, that totally rocks.  Plus some!

Another PS – Meghan really isn’t a Princess.  She has become…Her Royal Highness Meghan, Duchess of Sussex.

But still.

She is now royalty, and that is absolutely amazing!

There is NO way she or her parents, back in the day, ever really thought….You know, one day I think (my daughter) I will straight up become royalty.

God Bless America.

God Bless the Queen.

But in all seriousness, God Bless us all (as in the world, all religions, all colors, all anything).  We all could use it.

Best Wishes, and then some, to the Duke and Duchess of Sussex…

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Less Really Is More #2018 ILostSightOfWhatMatters


ONE LIFE

Another close friend of mine has made a life altering positive change.

On Monday, she turned in her resignation to a company who she has worked with for 12 years.

And she is leaving with their blessings for two reasons.

#1 She has a 3+ month transition/change over/full training plan in place for the company that she will oversee.  She has chosen her successor, and her successor is to choose her own successor, whom she will train to support her in her new role.

#2 She is leaving the company to go back to school to earn her Master’s Degree that will allow her to pursue a new line of work, work that she has wanted to do for years (and years).

She is fully supported by her husband, her family and her current employer.

One doesn’t usually receive that many green lights when changing course! hahahaha

I am beyond happy for her, and I will be there for the ups and the frustrations telling her over and over and over again – You’ve got this.  Because she does.

This must be a year of girl power.

One close girlfriend has spent the last year to two passing all four CPA exams which are needed in order to become a CPA, and now this close girlfriend will be spending the next year to two earning a degree to pursue work that has great meaning to her.  WOW.

Speaking of girl power, I unintentionally inspired a young lady within the last four to six weeks to follow her dreams too.

My co-worker emailed many weeks ago stating – I am such a dumb ass!

He shared with me an email between he and our boss.

Our boss told him something to the effect of – please check this, please change that, and are you sure about this?  He ended the email with – Are you testing me?

It was a joke that flew so far above my co-workers head.

I would have responded – Yes.  And you passed with flying colors!

Instead my co-worker replied to our boss with a long and rambling email about how he’d do the things ask, and would triple check everything and then ended the email with something like – I would never try to test you.  I respect you and your knowledge and blah, blah, blah.  I mean his response was long.

My boss emailed back with – I was just joking about the testing part.

Hence my co-worker smacking himself in the forehead and emailing me with how much of a dumbass he was.

He was at home so I texted him with – Dude. You ARE such a dumbass! hahahaha

I then added, Happy New Year and tell (insert wife’s name here) that I said Happy New Year too.  And buy her a damn motorcycle!!

They both are Persian, and the Persian New Year recently occurred in the last few weeks, at the time we were texting.

And being Persian, sometimes they misunderstand what is being conveyed, case in point, the email interaction between my co-worker and our boss.

Either he conveyed the message to his wife or she saw it because she texted me separately, at the same time he was texting me.

He was like, no motorcycle. Not yet.

She was like, thank you for the wishes and yes, I want a motorcycle!!

I told her, follow your dreams!  Don’t ever give up on the dream of having a motorcycle.  You work on him from your side and I’ll keep telling him on my side!!

I told him, too late dude.  While you are texting me, your wife and I have been texting each other too.  You are screwed.

Then we all said our good nights.

The next day my co-worker said – Did you feel me cursing you from a far?

I said – No. Why?

He said – BECAUSE NOW MY WIFE WANTS X, Y & Z AND KEEPS SAYING – LISA SAID FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS AND THAT IS WHAT I AM DOING!!

Remember that whole sometime the meaning gets lost in translation?  Well I meant this whole pump up inspiration to be about the motorcycle that she has long wanted so she could ride with us.

She took it to mean about everything……and now….they are proud new owners of a fish tank full of fish and a new dog they rescued from a shelter and she got hair extensions and she and I are going skydiving…..and she is not done yet!!!  hahahaha

Luckily, my co-worker is really digging their new dog or I’d be in trouble.

I still mention the motorcycle and he still says – Please don’t talk to my wife anymore. hahahaha

And I always remind him – Dude, you only have one life.  She only has one life.  Everything doesn’t have to happen now, but some things do need to happen when the time is right.

You have one life.

Live your life your way.

Don’t live the life others may want for you or think is best for you.

If you do, one day you will resent the hell out of that and maybe even them.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


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