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School is in Session

Well not really.  Not yet.

My classes start a week from today on Monday, May 22nd.

Yikes!

My boss agreed to let me try working extended hours Monday – Thursday, and taking off Fridays (since our non-tax season hours are 8:30am – noon on Fridays).

Notice the word try.

As in this is not a completely done deal yet.  So, I will work hard to ensure that I stay on top of my duties.

One less day of commuting and one more day to study = would help me tremendously not to burnout on any fronts.

Although my official school classes don’t start until Monday, I’ve been studying audio books like mad for the last year, with a concerted effort for the last six months.

I don’t only listen to the audio books during my commutes to and from work.  I listen in the morning, I listen in the evening, I listen while cleaning, I listen while walking, I listen while sitting out on my porch.  In short – I listen, listen, and listen.

When I am tired of listening or need a break, I turn to music or silence for a while (even days) until I am ready to hear more information.

I’d like to share what I have been listening to over the last year.

Perhaps you will find something of interest.

I started with one book which led me to another, or I would read or hear about a book and I just followed the path.

The first two are my absolute favorites because they are personal life stories, and I am very interested in these people’s lives and how they got to where they are today.

I hope you find something of interest.

 

 

My deepest desires?

To never stop learning.

To never think I know all that I need to know.

And to always keep an open mind and be willing to at least explore.

 

 


I Think I Am Going To Be Sick

Principles of Accounting I

Intro to Computer Applications & Concepts

Intro to Business

I just signed up for the first three of seven classes I need to earn a Bookkeeping Certificate.

And I just paid for it too.

I think I am going to be sick.

 


RIP Sandy. I Am Only Sorry That You Will Not Be Buried Next To Our Grandmother

And your wife of 37 years and 9 months, only due to her passing before you.

Today is my grandfather’s funeral.  Actually, technically, he is my step-grandfather.

His funeral is today at 11am.

It is about a four and a half to five-hour drive from my home, one way, depending on traffic…and I am not there, nor will I be.

After much texting and phone calls late yesterday and last night with my family, that was my final decision.

I am not going.

This is my grandfather’s obituary (I deleted any specific telling details) –

Blank, 89, of blank passed away Monday, April 17, 2017 at blank Hospital. He was the husband of the late Gloria blank.

Mr. blank was born in Boston, Mass., on April 10, 1928, was the son of the late blank and blank. He was a member of blank Presbyterian Church, a veteran of the Royal Canadian Air Force, and a former helicopter pilot for the Ontario Hydro Co.

He is survived by a granddaughter, blank of Cambridge, Ontario, Canada; a brother, blank of Fort Erie, Ontario, Canada; three great-grandchildren, Jason, Alex, and Madison blank; a son-in-law, blank of Niagara Falls, Ontario, Canada. He was preceded in death by a daughter, blank.

A graveside service will be conducted at 11 a.m. Wednesday, May 3, 2017 at the Blank Family Cemetery, on blank Rd., in blank by the Rev. Blank.

Hm.

Outside of his brother who is 80, my grandfather knew the rest of these other people for about five years. Tops.

My grandmother and Sandy were married in January of 1979.

So.  What about his other four grandchildren, and what about their children?

I am the oldest.

That means Sandy has been in my life for 38 years, and 36 years for my sister, and our cousins…..I am not sure how much younger they are than us, but they had to have  known him for at least 28-30 years,   If not more.

And our cousins and Aunt & Uncle were much closer to our grandparents in the later years.  They spent many annual holidays with them at their home.

My dad, my uncle and my aunt…they have known Sandy for those 38 years too, on an adult level.

Sandy passed away on Monday, April 17th.

My sister and I did not find out about it until Friday, April 21st.

At first I had great peace.

He was no longer alone, outside of a caretaker coming in a few times a week, because he (and my grandmother) had lived out in the middle of nowhere for decades.

None of us could easily just pop in to check on them or say hi.

And because the only listed granddaughter in his obituary, who he has only known for 5 years, who also happens to now be his sole heir aka the one calling the shots about his final resting place and the date and time of his funeral….. My sister and I did not know the final details regarding his funeral until Monday, May 1st in the evening.

Um, his funeral is on May 3rd (today) at 11am out in the middle of nowhere which equals pretty significant driving time to get there, let alone including the time to drive home and trying to take time off from work on the spur of the moment.

The thing that I am most upset about is the decision to bury him “at the Blank Family Cemetery.”

Please.

There is a small family cemetery on the estate BUT he will be the very first of HIS family to be buried there.

That is a nice way of saying we are not going to fly your step-grandfather’s remains, who we have only known for five years, down to Texas to be buried beside your grandmother (wife of 37 years and nine months) even though there is a paid plot waiting for him next to her.

Some of his last words, as I have been told, heard by several people at different time were to bury him in the estate’s cemetery…to save money for his granddaughter to inherit.

For me this has nothing to do with money, at least not for myself.

Sure, I sincerely hoped my dad and my uncle would receive an inheritance alongside Sandy’s only blood related granddaughter because Sandy and grandmother built a life together for 37+ years and it should be shared with all the heirs.

But for me, this is more a matter of honor and respect.

Even though I personally want to be cremated and released in the wind (preferably in a really cool and awe-inspiring place!), I believe that once a person dies, their spirit is free.

But if you have been married 37+ years, and burial is your method of choice, if possible the two should be buried together.

Our side of the family, as of late as yesterday, was willing to try to raise the money to send Sandy’s remains to TX to be with my grandmother, even though none of us have that money to spend, we would have done so to honor and respect the sacred bond of a lifelong marriage.

But c’est la vie, such is life in French.

Thirty minutes from now my grandfather will be buried miles and miles, and states and states away from my grandmother.

I won’t be there.

I sent the largest and most expensive red rose arrangement I have ever sent to anyone…..and I will honor him from my home.

My eyes are practically swollen shut from crying so much in the last 24 hours, hence me not going into work today even though I chose not to go to the funeral.

My face looks like I have gone ten rounds and have been beaten three times over by the world’s greatest boxing champ at present.

I really don’t want to have to explain this to anyone.

I will admit I am a little irritated with Sandy right about now.

But no matter where he is buried, or whatever happens…

I truly hope he is at peace, that he is with my grandmother and that he knows how much her side of the family, aka us, loves him.

RIP Sandy.

I love you.

 

 

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Pondering Again…

Go back to school?

Buy a condo?

Seems to me if one keeps pondering the same things, perhaps one should do something about it.

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Opening Up to Love in 2017

This is the year I’d like to open myself up to having a relationship.

I mean for real.

I have been single for 10 or 11 years.

Yep.  You heard me right. I am like a born again virgin.

I have had some dates over the years, but I have not been intrigued enough by anyone to want to do anything about it.

There for a while I even had the opportunity of being “Mrs. Robinson.”

I tried it out a couple of times, but it didn’t work for me.  It is not my style, although, it was extremely flattering.

I have become quite comfortable being single.

And it took a while, but now those closest to me are comfortable with me being single too.

I think that shift happened in the last few years.

It is just a given, Lisa is single.

Before my dating hiatus, I had two long-term relationships, back to back, with one year off in-between.

My exes wanted what most people want – marriage, kids, etc.  I didn’t.

There are other reasons the relationships didn’t work out, but the underlying theme was simple – we each wanted different things and envisioned different futures.

Both of my exes are married now, and I believe one has children.

I recently found out that my first ex waited to get married until the fall of 2014.

That brought me comfort.

He took his time, like I have.

He is the one that got away in my world.

I wouldn’t change anything.  Things did not work out for a reason.

But he is the one I have cared for the most in my life.

As for me, I have made a couple of false starts of maybe wanting to date again.

But now I think I am ready, now as in on the other side of tax season.

Last month I was extremely busy with a January 31st deadline.

I remember waking up one morning at 3:30 am thinking about work – I need to do this, I need to do that, this needs to changed and oh, don’t forget that other thing!!

And then I thought – Holy Cow!  I need to get a life!!

And that is when I started thinking about how nice it would be to be in a relationship again.

So on the other side of tax season, I will seriously get out, get involved and meet new people, because I could use more friends too.

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Wow. Thank You. AND I Got An Apple® iPhone® 7 Plus To Boot Baby!

I stepped away from work this weekend.  I mean like for real.

This is the first weekend in a month that I did not bring any work home.

My boss is at the Super Bowl with his son.  Pretty neat, huh?

Well, if the busiest man in the firm can take a little time to step away to enjoy life a bit before we are all living at the office, well I needed to follow suit.

I really needed it too – mentally, physically and emotionally.

As a result I have great news! I have been very productive this weekend, taking care of me things.

I am now the proud owner of four new (sports’ car) tires AND a set of rear wheel brake pads!

I took my S2000 in for the annually required inspection, and for the first time in my life, my car failed inspection.

Lucky for me, I remember how much it cost the last time I had to replace all the tires.  That knowledge let me know whether or not I was being taken advantage of, you know, being a woman and all.

Not only were they extremely fair, and threw in many discounts, they kept my car locked up nice and safe in their garage the entire time they had it in their possession..  Um.  They had me at hello with that move.

I have found my new mechanic(s)!  I got to be all up in the garage, like the good ole days.  I want to see and learn everything you can show me about my car, Jeep and Harley.

The only reason this whole experience didn’t stress or freak me out is because I had set aside some year-end bonus money I had received from my bosses.

Unlike four years ago when the Honda shop let me know that I would soon need to replace my tires…..but I didn’t have the money so I waited…..yep, it is a freaking miracle that I did not blow out a tire and/or crash my car with the way I was driving on those old tires.

It was mind-blowing when the mechanic showed me the old tires.  Yikes!

And my new tires, HOLY CRAP!  It is like driving on air.  The smoothest ride ever!

A bonus, I walked to the garage yesterday morning to pick up my car.  I, um, walked in 25 degree windy but sunny weather at 8:30am on a Saturday to pick up my car….it was @ a 1 ½ miles walk and it felt FREAKING FANTASTIC!

That is the first time in months that I have worn tennis shoes.  For real.

What used to be my norm (tennis shoes) had become flip-flops, and I’ve only been doing things that could be done in flip-flops. If I couldn’t do it in flip-flops, well, I wasn’t interested. hahaha

Not anymore.  Tennis shoes are soooo back in the game for me.

Even better, I put out a FitBit Walking Challenge, which kinda fell off my radar when my beloved FitBit died, for next week and four people have already joined me!

One other productive/awesome thing I did, I got an Apple® iPhone® 7 Plus baby!

One thing about me, I don’t upgrade unless I need to.

This new phone is only the fourth phone I have owned in the last 20 years.

The sales rep was like, WOW, you really are getting an upgrade lady!

I went from a 4, not a 4s, to the 7 Plus.  See.  I don’t upgrade for the sake of upgrading. hahaha

Not only is my new, beautiful 7 Plus iPhone the BOMB, but I set it up start to finish all by myself!

Mama has come a long way in the tech world in the last five years!

Now, I need to go take a nap, there is way too much excitement going on in my world this weekend people.

I hope you have a Happy Weekend too!

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Listen To Your Heart, Sharpen Your Mind & Pay Attention to Your Body

I was re-inspired to pick up my lifelong learning tendency again.

I’ve been studying audio books again since December 2015, because what else are you supposed to do when you are sitting in 2 hours of daily traffic to and fro work, you know that traffic you are not supposed to be sitting in because that was not part of the hiring agreement .

Sorry I digress, that is a very sore spot for me.

And that was complaining and bitching. hahaha

Anyhow, I have been studying audio book since December 2015.

The topics I have studied include: Inspiration, Spirituality, Health, Fitness, Self-Development, Money and Business.

I have purchased and listened to 47 books.   And some of them I have listened to many times over.

My focus for the last 9 plus months has been on business.

In particular, I have been studying extremely successful WOMEN and really taking heed in what they have to say.

One of the more recent studies was Nice Girls Don’t Get The Corner Office by Lois Frankel.

Boy did she give me a lot to think about.

She totally blew my plans out of the water by making complete sense as to why I will not get to where I want to go on my current path.

In March, I will be turning 46 and I thought I’d be making $100k by that age.

That may sound like a lot of money, unless you live in the DC metro area and you are the sole-provider for your present and future living conditions and you presently rent so your cost of living increase annually.

In my vision, the $100k didn’t necessarily have to come from one source.

I am not lazy and could work on the side doing bookkeeping or so many other things for others.

But with my current job, commute and maybe even industry – that is not possible.

Frankel pointed out that many women earn certificates or degrees while working but cannot move up where they work once they complete their studies because they have been type cast and are only needed for the position they have been hired to fill.

She also shared that the new norm for those who want to move up is to work for a company for three to five years, learn all that you can and do everything you can for them….and move to another company with a higher position.

Gone are the days that you stay somewhere for your working career, unless of course you have made it to the top, then by all means stay and reap what you have sown and enjoy!

I’ve been with my current company, two different times and positions, for a total of five years.

I’ve learned a lot, and I feel like I have given a lot in return.

Now I want more, but not necessarily more in the way of duties.

I keep getting more and new things to do at work and that is awesome!

Slight problem, these additions are on top of what I was already doing.

So.  That is where I am.

My heart says, I want and can do far more.

My mind says, I am open and keep learning.

My body says, girl, you better get me back in shape!  Don’t you know it helps in all areas of life to be fit and attractive?

My broken foot last year and my love for margaritas have totally dorked up my body!

My focus now, due to tax season, is doing the best job possible at work while focusing on body (fitness and health) too.

That is about all I will have time for until all is said and done aka Tax Day Deadline.

And then we shall see what I can do with the rest of 2017.

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