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Getting a Cat to Be More Affectionate

Why yes, that is what I have spent my morning doing…researching how to help my cat Kennedy enjoy being cuddled and loved on, and how to build a stronger bond with her.

This is new territory for me.

My cat Caesar who passed away last February was all about the tight bond, he even slept right next to me each night all stretched out like a little person.

I still miss him very much.

However, there is hope for Kennedy.

She is semi-affectionate, that is when she wants to be.

She does at least sleep in the same room with me, although we can’t be touching or else she feels the need to leave.

Usually she sleeps somewhere above me, so she can be the queen on the scene.

She has more toys than any cat should, but we get our money’s worth because she does play with them to the point of them becoming all ratty.

Now one article suggested that I scoop her up in a blanket, head covered and all, so she can experience feeling warm and safe and associate good things with being held while I talk to her softly.

Hold on a sec.  I am going to go try that.

Ok, one blanket has been shredded and I do believe I will have a scar over my right eye once this huge gash heals.

Just kidding.  I haven’t tried that technique.  Yet.

There is also the getting her to like me by feeding her small bits of raw 100% organic pasture raised beef.  I found this technique on youtube and saw with my own two eyes the results.

However if I go that route, number one, she’ll be eating better than me and number two, I need to check with my vet on that one first.  I don’t want to accidentally poison her just trying to get her to like me more.  That seems counterproductive.

Now I am going to go out today and buy her a few treats and use those to entice her to come hang a little closer for a little longer.  I see potential in this technique.

I’ll play with her more, and sit down in the floor more often and let her come to me for petting when and if she wants.  I’ve been practicing this morning and it is working. 

And who knows, maybe I’ll master the art of getting a cat, in specific Kennedy, to be more affectionate.

Like I said, she has potential….

Kennedy Chillin

Kennedy Chillin

 

Miss Kennedy

Miss Kennedy


Light & Bright

When my blog goes silent for a while, one of two things is going on…it is tax season or I have fallen in a rut.

Guess what?

It is not tax season.

As strange as it might sound, it all started with a really bad haircut.

I don’t know what possessed me but I let my stylist cut my hair really short in a bob, after all it looked really great on her!

Holy. Crap.  One of the worse decisions ever.

And there is no way on earth to hide that kind of dramatic change.

Now, two months later, my hair is not like it was aka long, but it grows closer daily.

So the big secret that is not so secret to those who know me, I have been down.

One thing that has been hard for me is my sister living in California with her family.  They’ve been there a little over a year.

I’ve known my sister for forty-one years, she is my best friend and in all those years, including this last one, we have only lived apart (as in not living within driving distance) from each other five, maybe six years.

At one point, we were even roommates in college.

I’d say we are kinda close, and not having her close to me is a pretty big deal in my world.

I did get to see my sister and her family twice over the Thanksgiving break and I cannot tell you how good it feels to hug someone you love and have missed so much.

Work has had me anxious too.  I am still in the uncomfortably learning phase.  Some of it I did before, I like that part.  Some of it is new, and that part is uncomfortable until it becomes comfortable.

No one is yelling at me or saying that I am doing things wrong, actually they have said I am doing well, it is just an internal anxiety and it total sucks.

I’ve been in positions before where I didn’t know everything about a job and in time I learned it and got a pretty good system down in the process, so it will happen here too.

I also haven’t worked out a very good routine yet because of the commute.  The distance between my house and work is no big deal.  It is just all of the traffic that gets in the way.

I do think if things were going well in other areas of my life, I wouldn’t have such anxiety about my job right now.

I guess the biggest area of my life that really needs to see some change is my social life.  I’ve been single a long time, mostly by choice, but now I would like to meet someone, and I would really like to meet some new friends too.

Most of the friends I have are married or married with children so things are different, and I don’t have gobs of them like I wish I did.

At 43, it is kind of hard to just go out and make friends.  I haven’t figured out where to start.

I know I need to get involved in something I care about, and dating sites and bars are not my thing, plus feeling down and anxious, gotta admit, not really great motivators.  So, as you can see, I am still trying to figure out where to start part.

And right about now, you are probably wishing I had remained quiet.

I wanted to post a piece since it has been so long, and unfortunately this is all I’ve got.

I know this will pass; I just hope this too shall pass with some positive changes on the other side.

I am pretty light and bright when I am happy.

And I’d like to feel that way again soon.


She Made Me Cry

I have been going through a little bit of a rough patch here lately, hence the silence.

I won’t bore you with the details because with all luck, this too shall pass.

But today I cried.

I cannot believe she made me cry.

I got home and I had a surprise package waiting for me on my doorstep from the mailman.

It was a box full of thoughtful gifts….little toys for Kennedy (my cat), a bottle of wine, a hoity toity dark chocolate bar, a lovely journal, a beautiful card with the most cheerful message, awesome photos of she and her children, a health/fitness magazine because she knows I am trying to get in shape, and this little dude……

Little Pumpkin Dude

I couldn’t help it, I cried.

It was one of the best cries I have had in a long time.

Tears of gratitude, tears of feeling loved and cared about, in short, just tears of wow.

I share this because if you want to make someone’s day for no reason, or even if you know they could use a lift, you might want to follow her lead.

It really could hug someone’s heart when they need it most.


Wordless Wednesday: Hot Water Not Working = Sponge Bath!

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Wordless Wednesday: Friendship

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Wordless Wednesday: In Search of My What Makes Your Heart Sing Reset Button

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Wordless Wednesday: It’s No Big Deal

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