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Thinking Outside of the Box

Memorial Day Weekend I did A LOT of thinking and research on so many things.

I am constantly thinking, evaluating, learning and bent on taking control of my life in order to create a life that brings me….what?

First and foremost, fulfillment.

Then tack on some peace, gratitude, love, pride, awe, and happiness.

I would put love first.

Well I guess I do.

Love for myself.

And I absolutely love my cats too.

I love people too, especially my family.

Sometimes I have thought about adopting a child, a little girl.

I would love to play a role in shaping the next generation, giving her all the tools that I have had to learn (and am still learning) daily.

Number one, I cannot afford to raise a child on my own.

Number two, I am still working on myself.

As for romantic love, in the last 8 years, I have only found two men intriguing.

One is married, as in long time married and he loves being married, with kids, whom he also loves very much.

The other has never been married, but he is deeply ingrained in his ex’s life and with her family too.

Both are a (BIG) no no for me.

I am not saying I had a shot with either of them, nor have I acted on my attraction(s).

I am not stupid.

Karma is a bitch.

I tested it once when I was younger and “stole” someone away from another.

They weren’t married.  I would not do that.  I’d rather be alone.

I ended up in a long-term (6 years) relationship with him, and it was one of the most damaging and unhealthy relationships for me/to me.

I haven’t dated anyone since.

So I have focused on my career, which at present does not have as much traction as I was hoping for at this point in my life.

But all is not said and done.

Like I said, I have been doing A LOT of thinking and research on so many things.

Not just over Memorial Day weekend, but for months now.

I have visions.  I have dreams.  And I have great potential.

I just need the right mentor because along side of all of this, I have an insatiable appetite for learning and growing.

These days I am thinking outside of the box.

I want to be in the C-Suite.

I thrive in smaller firms.

I have a lot to learn.

I am willing to put in the time.

God willing I still have 20-25 work years left in me.

And somewhere out there is the perfect match.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Reality Check


ONE LIFE

Another close friend of mine has made a life altering positive change.

On Monday, she turned in her resignation to a company who she has worked with for 12 years.

And she is leaving with their blessings for two reasons.

#1 She has a 3+ month transition/change over/full training plan in place for the company that she will oversee.  She has chosen her successor, and her successor is to choose her own successor, whom she will train to support her in her new role.

#2 She is leaving the company to go back to school to earn her Master’s Degree that will allow her to pursue a new line of work, work that she has wanted to do for years (and years).

She is fully supported by her husband, her family and her current employer.

One doesn’t usually receive that many green lights when changing course! hahahaha

I am beyond happy for her, and I will be there for the ups and the frustrations telling her over and over and over again – You’ve got this.  Because she does.

This must be a year of girl power.

One close girlfriend has spent the last year to two passing all four CPA exams which are needed in order to become a CPA, and now this close girlfriend will be spending the next year to two earning a degree to pursue work that has great meaning to her.  WOW.

Speaking of girl power, I unintentionally inspired a young lady within the last four to six weeks to follow her dreams too.

My co-worker emailed many weeks ago stating – I am such a dumb ass!

He shared with me an email between he and our boss.

Our boss told him something to the effect of – please check this, please change that, and are you sure about this?  He ended the email with – Are you testing me?

It was a joke that flew so far above my co-workers head.

I would have responded – Yes.  And you passed with flying colors!

Instead my co-worker replied to our boss with a long and rambling email about how he’d do the things ask, and would triple check everything and then ended the email with something like – I would never try to test you.  I respect you and your knowledge and blah, blah, blah.  I mean his response was long.

My boss emailed back with – I was just joking about the testing part.

Hence my co-worker smacking himself in the forehead and emailing me with how much of a dumbass he was.

He was at home so I texted him with – Dude. You ARE such a dumbass! hahahaha

I then added, Happy New Year and tell (insert wife’s name here) that I said Happy New Year too.  And buy her a damn motorcycle!!

They both are Persian, and the Persian New Year recently occurred in the last few weeks, at the time we were texting.

And being Persian, sometimes they misunderstand what is being conveyed, case in point, the email interaction between my co-worker and our boss.

Either he conveyed the message to his wife or she saw it because she texted me separately, at the same time he was texting me.

He was like, no motorcycle. Not yet.

She was like, thank you for the wishes and yes, I want a motorcycle!!

I told her, follow your dreams!  Don’t ever give up on the dream of having a motorcycle.  You work on him from your side and I’ll keep telling him on my side!!

I told him, too late dude.  While you are texting me, your wife and I have been texting each other too.  You are screwed.

Then we all said our good nights.

The next day my co-worker said – Did you feel me cursing you from a far?

I said – No. Why?

He said – BECAUSE NOW MY WIFE WANTS X, Y & Z AND KEEPS SAYING – LISA SAID FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS AND THAT IS WHAT I AM DOING!!

Remember that whole sometime the meaning gets lost in translation?  Well I meant this whole pump up inspiration to be about the motorcycle that she has long wanted so she could ride with us.

She took it to mean about everything……and now….they are proud new owners of a fish tank full of fish and a new dog they rescued from a shelter and she got hair extensions and she and I are going skydiving…..and she is not done yet!!!  hahahaha

Luckily, my co-worker is really digging their new dog or I’d be in trouble.

I still mention the motorcycle and he still says – Please don’t talk to my wife anymore. hahahaha

And I always remind him – Dude, you only have one life.  She only has one life.  Everything doesn’t have to happen now, but some things do need to happen when the time is right.

You have one life.

Live your life your way.

Don’t live the life others may want for you or think is best for you.

If you do, one day you will resent the hell out of that and maybe even them.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


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