Someone I cared a great deal about passed away yesterday.
And he was 100% good people.
Someone I cared a great deal about passed away yesterday.
And he was 100% good people.
This is the year I’d like to open myself up to having a relationship.
I mean for real.
I have been single for 10 or 11 years.
Yep. You heard me right. I am like a born again virgin.
I have had some dates over the years, but I have not been intrigued enough by anyone to want to do anything about it.
There for a while I even had the opportunity of being “Mrs. Robinson.”
I tried it out a couple of times, but it didn’t work for me. It is not my style, although, it was extremely flattering.
I have become quite comfortable being single.
And it took a while, but now those closest to me are comfortable with me being single too.
I think that shift happened in the last few years.
It is just a given, Lisa is single.
Before my dating hiatus, I had two long-term relationships, back to back, with one year off in-between.
My exes wanted what most people want – marriage, kids, etc. I didn’t.
There are other reasons the relationships didn’t work out, but the underlying theme was simple – we each wanted different things and envisioned different futures.
Both of my exes are married now, and I believe one has children.
I recently found out that my first ex waited to get married until the fall of 2014.
That brought me comfort.
He took his time, like I have.
He is the one that got away in my world.
I wouldn’t change anything. Things did not work out for a reason.
But he is the one I have cared for the most in my life.
As for me, I have made a couple of false starts of maybe wanting to date again.
But now I think I am ready, now as in on the other side of tax season.
Last month I was extremely busy with a January 31st deadline.
I remember waking up one morning at 3:30 am thinking about work – I need to do this, I need to do that, this needs to changed and oh, don’t forget that other thing!!
And then I thought – Holy Cow! I need to get a life!!
And that is when I started thinking about how nice it would be to be in a relationship again.
So on the other side of tax season, I will seriously get out, get involved and meet new people, because I could use more friends too.
Monday morning I did something I never thought I would do.
For years, five to be precise, a handful close to me have tried to encourage me to try online dating.
Nope not for me.
Well Monday morning I decided to give a go.
That’s a pretty big deal in my world.
But I am trying to change things up, do things differently, explore and say yes to life more.
First off, I will never be able to be facebook friends with anyone I may meet on this online dating journey, nor tell them about my blog because I’ll be sharing the journey with you and I am pretty sure that might not be so cool in their eyes. hahahaha
But seriously, I won't speak about specific gents, just my side of experiences.
When you set up your profile (and mine is not complete yet) you begin by adding a picture and writing something about yourself.
This is my initial pic –
I copy and pasted my about me page from my blog and answered five questions.
I can’t remember any of the questions except the first one.
Are you ok with someone being messy?
The last step was to pick three profile pictures to gauge the type of guys you find attractive.
There were guys ages 26 to 66 or there about.
I am not going to lie; a lot of those 30 something year old dudes caught my eye.
But alas I stayed within my age range; I didn’t want to come across as a creeper.
I didn’t realize the profile pictures I was looking at were real, but good news, one of the dudes I liked liked me back.
Now I have to go back and fill out the rest of my profile because they don’t know…like how tall I am, or what I am looking for, or my horoscope sign and so forth. hahahaha
But what is really cool, a dude I liked based solely on his picture turned out to be is 49, drives a Harley, drives a jeep (I think according to the pic), rock climbs, doesn’t have children, and oh yeah, he’s hot.
I am not saying we would mesh, but I find it intriguing that there are good-looking dudes out there with similar interests as me that had I not gotten out of my comfort zone and tried online dating, I potentially would never meet.
In 24 hours I have received 141 likes (that’s better than anything I have ever gotten on facebook!!!! hahahaha) and 18 messages.
Now 90% of those will probably do nothing for me, but it still makes a gal feel good after being out of the game for so long.
Oh, and now I REALLY have incentive to get my body back in tip-top shape as soon as possible!! hahahaha
The moral of the story…don’t poo poo what you have never tried BUT only try it if and when you are ready.
Don’t go with your song still inside you. Let it guide you every day.
Those are some of the lyrics to the song played at the end of The Shift.
It is so catchy and fun that if I can’t find it for sale somewhere, I will have to record it.
Side note, I found it!
Check it out – Song Inside You by Ethan Lipton & His Orchestra.
Now I just need to find it on iTunes and Hello Happiness!
The Shift is a movie starring Dr. Wayne Dyer, as well as, Michael DeLuise, Portia de Rossi, Ed Kerr and Shannon Sturges.
The Shift explores the intertwined lives of an overachieving businessman ( Edward Kerr) and his estranged wife (Portia de Rossi), a mother of two young children seeking her own expression in the world (Shannon Sturges), and a film director trying to make a name for himself (Michael DeLuise).
Filmed on coastal California’s spectacular Monterey Peninsula, The Shift captures every person’s mid-life longing for a more purposeful, soul-directed life and Dr. Dyer shares his wisdom throughout the movie.
Dr. Wayne Dyer passed away about a month ago.
And I still can’t seem to get my head around it, he was so young.
I thought he would be one of those people who would make it to at least 100, if not longer.
I first found Dr. Dyer back in 2002.
Since then I have read many of his books and listened to many of his audio and TV programs. Many of which were shared for free on public television.
I even saw him in person twice, once in NY and once in DC.
I gotta be honest. I still can’t wrap my mind around everything he taught, but I was able to wrap my heart around much of it.
I miss him as if I knew him and I am grateful that he was here.
Should you be interested, Hay House is featuring his movie for free at present (until the end of September, I think) as a tribute to his life and his life’s work.
Here is the link – The Shift
“You are only one thought away from changing your life.” – Dr. Wayne Dyer
Friendship is a beautiful gift.
What is neat, I can be friends with almost anyone.
Even more important, so can you.
I have a friend who is 23.
We went to Atlantic City, met up with some other friends, and danced the night away.
I have a friend who is 26.
We attended a SUP (stand up paddleboard) yoga class. We will also be going surfing and are working on doing a half marathon together.
I have a friend who is in her thirties.
We have experienced a trapeze class, done a Spartan race, run a couple of other races together. We have also taken a painting class, done numerous walks and hikes AND just learned how to grill out for the first time together.
I have a friend who just turned the Big 4.0.
As much as we have been able, annually we do the same 10k together. Although this last time I complained the whole way, when I could breathe that is.
I have a friend who is two years younger than me, my sister.
Best friend ever and 42 years of adventures together that is still unfolding.
I have a friend who is slightly older than my parents.
I spent the weekend with her and we went parasailing. We also shared great meals prepared by her, and wonderful conversations.
Speaking of parents, I am pretty great friends with them too! The list is way too long to share all of our experiences together here.
Moral of the story, friendship is a beautiful gift. They enriched our lives. They make us flourish. They connect us and help us grow.
And friendships have no age limits.
Tuesday, February 24th, 2014, my little man Caesar unexpectedly passed away.
I came home from work, noticed that he was having trouble breathing and rushed him to the vet.
They took x-rays and the experience scared him so badly that they had to put him on oxygen to keep him breathing.
I rushed him across town to an emergency vet hospital and four hours after arriving home from work, what I thought was a normal day, my little man was gone.
That was one of the worse days of my life.
Tuesday, February 24th, 2015, my guardian who cared for me during my high school and college years will be laid to rest.
She was a wonderful and giving woman, and she was strong, both physically and mentally.
She had a garden that she loved so much, flowers and vegetables galore.
And when I say garden, I really mean a small farm out back that she took care of all by herself, by choice.
She was 50 years older than me, and even back in high school, she could out last me physically and stamina wise.
I remember thinking ~ I want to be like her when I get older ~ full of life, strong, capable with an ‘I do it myself and not going to have it any other way’ mentality.
She lived in her own home with her niece until about a year or so ago, and then she moved in with her daughter.
She outlived her brother and sister by many years, both of which lived on the same street as her, they were two of her three neighbors.
She was a very resilient woman.
I was there for her when her husband passed away. She had cared for him many years after he had a stroke, so when he passed away it was very life changing for her.
And she was there for me when my step-mother passed away, a very life changing event for me too.
I think that is when we bonded most, because both deaths happened around the same time.
She lived to be 94, which is pretty awesome in my book.
I am very sad that she is gone, and I am very disappointed that I didn’t make it down one last time to see her.
Over the last couple of years I have had a couple of challenging changes going on in my life as well, and the opportunity to see her again unknowingly slipped by.
She gave me one of the best compliments ever, her gift to me.
She told my grandmother, and both she and my mom remind me of it often, especially when I need a lift.
She said ~ If someone cannot get along with Lisa, well then, there is something wrong with them.
I have only been to a few funerals. I can count them on half of one hand.
It is going to be very hard to see this strong woman lying there lifeless, and me not being able to talk with her one last time.
Tuesday, February 24th, 2015 is going to be an emotional day.
I hope Tuesday, February 24th, 2016 will bring a different kind of life affirming gift.
Please don’t take today or tomorrow for granted.
I know I won’t.
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