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State of Affairs

#1 I had no idea that this was a TV show.

#2 I “run” a State of Affairs (at least) every quarter (if not monthly)….as in…I look at everything (and I write it down).

These are my assets, these are my liabilities, and this is where I stand in this moment in time.

But in the last few months, I have come to realize that I really need to be “crunching” another set of numbers/state of affairs as well.

What if someone told you, “At best, you have 6 to 12 months left on earth?”

What the hell would you do with that?

I don’t know about you, but I need to make some changes.

And not because today is the 1st day of a New Year, but because, I still have a lot that I want to do and experience and I hope you do too.

My wish for you is real change, so you may experience a rich and fulfilling life.

The State of Affairs 2019…may we each have more assets than liabilities on all levels.

Today is the start of a New Year (and New Day).

Make. It. Count.


Where is the Damn Reset Button?!

I have a bit of anger going on right now.

Most would not associate me with anger.  At least I hope not.

Not unless you have been in close proximity and seen or experienced it firsthand.  But let’s be honest, it doesn’t happen all that often, but I will admit, when it does, it can take a little while to get over it.  hahaha

If you dig deeper, anger is only the top layer, and for me, it is covering up stress, fear and frustration.

And I cannot wait for a reset.

I have so much tension in my body that I am seriously considering adding a punching bag to my home gym.

I don’t like feeling anger/angry either.  Talk about not being a nice person, nor does it feel good.  Not really my cup of tea.

But sometimes it happens and sometimes it gets stuck.

So I need some time away to reset me, my mood, my thoughts and my world.

Luckily, I am only one and a half days away from such a wonderful retreat/reset.  Time off for the holiday season.

I am going to exercise.

I am going to deep clean and deep declutter my home.  And although most would not consider my home to be cluttered, I want to get my home down to things that I honest to goodness use.  If I don’t use it, and I haven’t in a long while = donate it and let someone else enjoy it.

I am going to see some movies too!

I haven’t seen a movie in the theater in such a looooong time and I looooove going to the movies.

I want to see these two films…

SECOND ACT – Jennifer Lopez

Movie Trailer:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uPzrK5yLIoM

A STAR IS BORN – Lady Gaga, Bradley Cooper

Movie Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bo_efYhYU2A

I do have some comic relief in most of my days which helps.

That’s the gift my co-worker and I give each other.

I don’t know that a day has gone by in a very long time that we haven’t laughed together.

To be honest, that is probably the only reason we are friends! hahahaha

Just kidding.  He takes care of my motorcycle and that’s a BIG plus!  A gal has to keep her priorities straight.  hahahaha

But I help him too.  By his own admission, he is not a very good gift giver.  So, I helped him buy his gift for our office holiday luncheon on Friday, along with two other co-workers I helped separately, so now I know 4 of the 12 gifts being presented.  Surprise! hahahaha

I also helped him buy gifts for his wife, and then I even stayed late after work last night to help him wrap them.  This is their second Christmas together, and this year he’s better prepared and really wanted to make her happy by having presents under the tree for her to gaze upon until the big unwrapping several presents day.

Recently we were taking a walk and I was talking about a problem I was trying to resolve and said, “You know, I can be like a bulldog and I am not going to let go until it is resolved.”

He said, “You are SO right!  You ARE like a bulldog.”

I said, “Shut up Chihuahua.”

And we both laughed so hard because he can be quite skittish, and I scare him often, half the time without trying.

I sent him the following pic….Subject line read: SUPER Chihuahua!

And his nickname from me has since become – Chihuahua!

Personally, I just love saying the word. hahaha

A couple of nights ago we were leaving the office at the same time.

This happens at times, but we rarely leave the parking garage at the same time.

Um.  That is because I have scared him on a couple of occasions so he tries to avoid it at all costs.

He drives like a granny.  He’ll tell you so himself.

I don’t.  And he will tell you that as well.

So there were, um, a couple of times he has been tooling along down the road oblivious to everything and I have either pulled up beside him or behind him without him knowing, and then I slipped my gear shift into neutral and REVVED my engine!

I wish I had a video of his reaction.  I can’t even explain it….something along the lines of…eyes wide open as saucers, physically bracing one’s self for impact, utter surprise and fear and then the realization that it is only me.

Thinking about it now makes me laugh.  I am so going to hell for this one. hahaha  The few times I have done it, I laugh all the way home, crying and unable to breathe.  Yep.  I am going to hell.

But this is really, really mean, so I only do it once every blue moon as to not give him a complex.  Plus I don’t know how many strikes I have left for doing this before I really do go to hell or karma comes knocking on my door.

So for the reasons mentioned above, this is why he very much prefers I leave first, and why it was unusual that I found myself right behind him the other night as we both pulled out of the parking garage at the same time.

Since I have been in a foul mood, I gave him his space and in no way tried to intimidate him.

We drove to the end of the lane and entered the traffic circle, me far behind him….and then he proceeded to make a second loop in the traffic circle and to his utter surprise, I followed suit.

And then we were both laughing so hard and driving around in circles until he finally exited onto the ramp and I followed, far, far behind him because this day I was giving him his space.

When it is free and clear I do pass him eventually, because I can not drive that slow.  By I do so by being many lanes over and not right next to him.

It is silly things like this that help end a rough day on the right note, and why I should be right as rain on the other side of my retreat/reset long weekend.

I wish you all a Happy Holiday, and I am happy to report I will not be a Grinch and rain on anyone’s parade! hahaha

 

 

 

 

 


Chapter 10: More Than Good Intensions. How to Adapt to New & Difficult Situations

I really cannot express how much of a positive impact this book has made on my life as of late….

Willpower Doesn’t Work.  Discover the Hidden Keys to Success by Benjamin Hardy.

I found out about his book as a bi-product of listening to and studying two other sources.

His book and thoughts have flipped most previously self-help resources I have studied on their head.

It is real. It is practical. And it is logical.

The most telling result – I cannot sit still while or after listening to any part of his book.

That really hasn’t ever happened, EVERY SINGLE TIME after listening to any book or reading anything.

I have his book as an audio book on both on my iPhone and iPod.

I only have to hear the man speak for 5 minutes and I am up and being extremely productive, taking care of things I have been procrastinating about completing for so long!

Chapter 10….How to adapt to any environment no matter how difficult…become an adaptive learner.

  1. Have faith (not religious, a personal conviction) that you can adapt and change…aka…have The Growth Mindset, become a flexible learner.
  2. Commit 100% to the change you seek, be willing to change who you are to uphold/achieve your goals.
  3. Learn to develop tolerance to the things you fears most.
  4. Learn how to tolerate and embrace unpleasant emotions…directly expose yourself to your fears and resistance.

And that is just the beginning of Chapter 10.

“Control your environment rather than allowing it to control you.”

“Lessons will repeat themselves until they are learned.”

If you want to go to the next level, be willing to start over and over and over again until you learn what you need to learn to advance to the next level.

A personal mantra I have gleamed from Benjamin Hardy’s book ~ Make my mind adaptable to any circumstance.

Many people knock self-help resources.

But as long as I am here – I want to be growing, changing, evolving, and experiencing all that life holds for me.

Yes even the this totally sucks stuff (I’ve got some of that going on right now).

Why?

Because, all of life – the good, bad and ugly is what makes me, me and what makes you, you.

For better or worse, everything, all of it, really does make life worth living and something to be appreciated.

It also creates the desire to strive and create something better for you and yours.


Holy Bleep!  I am a Princess, a Real Life Princess!

I have not watched a Royal wedding before.

Not start to finish.

I did not watch Prince William and Kate Middleton’s wedding even though I thought/think they are a great match and are very much in love.

In the past, I have been more than happy to watch the highlights on the nightly news shows.

And I did not set out to watch Harry and Meghan’s wedding today either.

I woke up at 5:30 am, like normal, and turned on the TV.

And there it was – streaming live.

I thought I’d have it on in the background and go about things on my computer.

I was wrong.

I was sucked in like almost everyone else, and happily so.

I didn’t get a thing done on my computer because I was hooked to my TV for 4.5 hours.

4.5 hours!

At times, I had tears streaming down my face, and I even found myself thinking….I want to get married.

Um.  That is unheard of in my world.  I am not the marrying type.  At least that has not been a “goal” of mine to date.

And that thought didn’t just pop into my head (and maybe even into my heart this time too) because of today’s ceremony and all of the regal and “royalness” going on.

It stemmed from the connection Meghan and Harry share.

These two people together are very special on so many levels, in my opinion.

I think they are going to do a lot of good in the world together.

I have never been married, so I am not sure I really have a wise say in the matter, but, I really do think that getting married in your 30s (or later) is perfect.

In doing so, each person has had the time to “live a life” on their own, as well as define who they are.  And in doing so, each person really does have something to share with the other.

The fact that Meghan and Harry are in love, for real, wow, that makes this union just about perfect for/to me.

Not to mention the fact that I would love to date (and/or marry) an English or Australian man just to hear him talk! hahaha

Now that really has been a goal of mine for as long as I can remember, not the marrying part, but the being in a loving relationship with an English or Australian man. hahahaha

For real.

I could listen to him talk about…just about almost anything,…and I could do so for…um, just about forever.

Meghan and Harry are changing the British monarchy without even trying.  They are changing it by being who they each are, and by being in love and uniting.

But.

I could not help but to think on many occasions during the event, Meghan and her mom, at some point or another (or many), had to have the thought…

Meghan: Holy Bleep!  I am a Princess, a Real Life Princess!

Doria (Meghan’s mom): Holy Bleep!  My daughter is a Princess, a Real Life Princess!

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I am sure they don’t cuss, but that is how it played out in my head.

Meghan walking herself down the aisle was priceless and powerful.

You go girl.

For Real.

If I ever get married, I am walking (or rolling) myself down the aisle.

I  really do wish them the best of the VERY best in their life together.

I look forward to seeing what they create together in the years to come.

PS – Her mom has a nose ring, teaches yoga and is a social worker….um, that totally rocks.  Plus some!

Another PS – Meghan really isn’t a Princess.  She has become…Her Royal Highness Meghan, Duchess of Sussex.

But still.

She is now royalty, and that is absolutely amazing!

There is NO way she or her parents, back in the day, ever really thought….You know, one day I think (my daughter) I will straight up become royalty.

God Bless America.

God Bless the Queen.

But in all seriousness, God Bless us all (as in the world, all religions, all colors, all anything).  We all could use it.

Best Wishes, and then some, to the Duke and Duchess of Sussex…

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