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Opening Up to Love in 2017

This is the year I’d like to open myself up to having a relationship.

I mean for real.

I have been single for 10 or 11 years.

Yep.  You heard me right. I am like a born again virgin.

I have had some dates over the years, but I have not been intrigued enough by anyone to want to do anything about it.

There for a while I even had the opportunity of being “Mrs. Robinson.”

I tried it out a couple of times, but it didn’t work for me.  It is not my style, although, it was extremely flattering.

I have become quite comfortable being single.

And it took a while, but now those closest to me are comfortable with me being single too.

I think that shift happened in the last few years.

It is just a given, Lisa is single.

Before my dating hiatus, I had two long-term relationships, back to back, with one year off in-between.

My exes wanted what most people want – marriage, kids, etc.  I didn’t.

There are other reasons the relationships didn’t work out, but the underlying theme was simple – we each wanted different things and envisioned different futures.

Both of my exes are married now, and I believe one has children.

I recently found out that my first ex waited to get married until the fall of 2014.

That brought me comfort.

He took his time, like I have.

He is the one that got away in my world.

I wouldn’t change anything.  Things did not work out for a reason.

But he is the one I have cared for the most in my life.

As for me, I have made a couple of false starts of maybe wanting to date again.

But now I think I am ready, now as in on the other side of tax season.

Last month I was extremely busy with a January 31st deadline.

I remember waking up one morning at 3:30 am thinking about work – I need to do this, I need to do that, this needs to changed and oh, don’t forget that other thing!!

And then I thought – Holy Cow!  I need to get a life!!

And that is when I started thinking about how nice it would be to be in a relationship again.

So on the other side of tax season, I will seriously get out, get involved and meet new people, because I could use more friends too.

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Look Out Ukrops 10k, Here I Come!

I am pretty excited… I’ll  be joining a group of lovely ladies to participle with in this year’s Ukrop’s 10k on Saturday, April 1st!

It is something I’ve tried to do annually with my girl Janie since 2011.

In 2011, I was 40 and finished the race in 1 hour, 15 minutes and 53 seconds.

In 2012, I was 41 and finished the race in 1 hour, 14 minutes and 46 seconds.

In 2015, yeah I took a couple of years off, I was 43 finished the race in 1 hour, 22 minutes and 55 seconds.

And now in 2017, because last year I broke my foot and I could not participate, I will be 4 days into my 46th year of life and my only goal is…..to complete the race! hahaha

My times might not sound like all of that, but to me they rock.

You see, each time I just up and did 6.2 miles with no training in the middle of tax season and I have remained pretty consistent through the years.

I even get up at the crack of dawn, drive 2+ hours, do the race, have lunch and drive the 2+ hours back.

Now that alone has got to be impressive! hahaha

I am not sure what this year holds due to the extra weight I am carrying courtesy of the previously mentioned broken foot last year, but if I can remain consistent, I will be over the moon!

And even if I cannot, but I at least finish the race, well, I will still be as pleased as punch and proud of myself.

I hope you sign up to do something you think you might not be able to pull off this year too, it does wonders for the soul.

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Thank You 2016

Facebook has this nefty thing.  They created a video showcasing your year for 2016.

I watched mine and was pleased.

You kind of forget all of the things you have done or experienced in a year.

I did the world a favor and did not share mine on Facebook.

After all, no one is as interested in my life as me.

2016 was fairly good for me.

Sad and low points…

I broke my foot and gained 30 extra pounds as a result.  I had my birthday off during tax season BUT only because I was at the freaking foot doctor’s office for a boot and later had to return for a cast.

That was the first time I have ever broken anything and it was quite an eye opener how much such an incident can effect one’s life.

I would prefer not to ever go there again.

My grandmother passed away later in the year.  I still cannot believe that one.  She had always been so strong and tough, and she had also been in my life for all of the 45 years of my life.  I really hate death.

On a positive note(s), um, I finally bought my Harley!

I also got to experience Go Ape Zip Line & Treetop Adventure not once, BUT TWICE, courtesy of the firm I work for.

I had never done zip lining before, and now I can cross it off my Bucket list!  And each visit was a 3 hour physical endeavor and so what I needed.

One thing I am seriously currently struggling with is my commute to and from work.

I live 13 miles from the office, yet I spend up to 2 or 2 and half hours in traffic to and from DAILY.

I also drive a stick shift.

It is painful.  Cramped foots and all.  And I will probably blow the clutches way before their times as a result.

Plus it drains the hell out of you.

This is a very touchy point with me since I wasn’t supposed to be stuck in traffic.

My agreement to come back to the firm I am with was that I could off-set my hours so that I would NOT spend my life in rush hour.

I mean I officially and specifically said – I do not want to spend my life in rush hour.

But such is life, that did not work out as originally planned.

I am not sure what I am going to do about this as of yet.

My sister and very a close friend suggested that I move closer to work.  I actually considered this and looked at some apartments right across the street from my office

Um.  They are crazy expensive.

But you know what?  I would be so unhappy living in Maryland.

I’ve tried it before and it just did not work for me.

In the DC metro area, you are either Team Virginia or Team Maryland.

I am team Virginia through and through.

So I am leaving all of that alone until after tax season.  With a new receptionist I would not leave before she has gone through a tax season and understands as much as possible about the firm.

I love my job, wanted to grow with this firm in particular, but the commute is killing me.

Others in the firm also have long commutes.  But they live far away AND they knowingly signed up for it.

I did not.

NOW.  On to a positive note.  I am super excited about this weekend!

A co-worker and I are going through a weekend motorcycle training course.

Yes.  It will be held during the COLDEST weekend of the year thus far AND it will feel like working full-time over the weekend since the classes will run Friday night 6:45pm to 10pm and Saturday & Sunday from 7:30am to 6 pm…

But still, WE WILL BE RIDING MOTORCYCLES!!!

Although I now own a Harley AND I have a motorcycle license and have had it for YEARS…

I want a refresher course to feel more comfortable with driving my said beautiful Harley out on the open roads with more confidence.

One of my bosses is so eagerly waiting for the day I drive my Harley into work.

Now there is a greater chance it will be sooner rather than later AND now I am going to acquire a partner in crime.

I will have someone to ride with!

And his wife wants in on it too!!  First as a passenger and then as a hell yeah driver!

Side note, she wants to be a driver now, but, good things come to those who wait.

Nonetheless, this my friends will be on the icing on my 2016 cake!

To hell with my horrible commute for now, this weekend I will be in heaven and I will be freezing my @ss off!

Happy Nearing the End of 2016!

 

 

 

 

 


They Have An App For That!

Yesterday was a very sad, sad day for me.

I was FitBitless.

I had officially finally lost my FitBit.

And I was on a roll too in my FitBit group weekly challenge!

I was in the lead and had been pretty active since Sunday – 5 miles, 6 miles, 7 miles, 5 miles and then Thursday – zip, zilch, nada, and so sad lady go home.

Losing a FitBit is like losing a helpful and challenging friend, so, so disappointing.

It happened to two friends of mine this past year, but it could never happen to me.

Or so I thought.

Yesterday I felt naked. No FitBit to wear, my first day since June 22, 2015 going commando.

I was going to share that statement with someone yesterday and then thought better of it, saying naked in front of someone you don’t know all that well is, um, awkward.

But we are all friends here so – naked, naked, and NAKED! hahaha

I am only in a good mood because I found my FitBit safe and sound this morning.

And I only found it safe and sound and sooner because one of my FitBit group friends said – Hey, they have an app for that.

I learned something extremely important from this experience.

It is such a GREAT idea to have younger friends.

I was all prepared to buy a new FitBit.

So guess what I found out?

There really is an app out there to find lost FitBits!

In fact, there are several.

I googled (because Google is my very bested friend in the whole wide world, after my FitBit and iPods) – What app will help me find my lost FitBit?

I found two, both of which had 5 star ratings.

Really first I found one, paid $4.99 for it and began combing my house following a beep beep beeping signal on my phone.

It was a lot like a game of Hot or Cold.

You are hot (getting closer), hot, HOOOOT – totally cold and way off base lady.

My cats were following me around as I was following around my phone with its beep, beep, beeping.

After about 30 minutes and tearing up my house at the slightest of beeps I was getting frustrated (understatement).

Now I knew the FitBit was in my house from the get go, so that made it even more frustrating (again, very understated).

When I am in bed and falling asleep and realize that I still have it on and am too lazy to get up and put it in my purse (so my cat Mozzie doesn’t eat it), I take it off and tuck it under my pillow.

I turned over couches, shook the tar out of every blanket I could find, looked under every piece of furniture in case Mozzie had indeed found it and dragged it off somewhere and I still came up empty.

I became angry and found myself thinking – Those 5 star raters are LIARS!!!

I sat back down at my computer and hit up my pal Google again to help me find another app.

This was the apps last chance. If this didn’t work I was going to buy a new FitBit!

The second app again had 5 star ratings, and even better, it was free.

I was going to be so pissed off if this free app found my FitBit and the one I paid cold hard cash for didn’t.

The first app had me focused on my living room, that’s where I feel asleep when I lost it.

But the second app was fonder of my bedroom.

The second app didn’t beep; it had a signal bar to indicate when you were close. The more bars you saw the closer you were.

Another round of Hot or Cold ensued.

This time I tore my bed apart, shaking out blankets, tossing pillows everywhere and nothing. Rats (understatement). Empty handed again!

But then I got a brilliant idea to toggle between the two apps, using them both and TAA DAA – I found my FitBit!!

I had tucked my FitBit INTO my pillow case.

I don’t remember doing that. I usually tuck it UNDER my pillow.

I would have found my FitBit this weekend when I did the laundry, but $5 and one less day FitBitless was worth it.

So long story short, it took me an hour and it was quite frustrating (by this point, so understated that it is mind-boggling) BUT I did not waste the $5 I spent on the first app and my friend saved me from spending $100!

All in all, it has been a pretty good morning.

Oh, and I am in second place FitBit group weekly challenge wise so I still have a chance to win by the end of today even with having logged zip, zilch, nada, and so sad lady go home steps yesterday!

Who’s your mama?

Me.

And they have an app for that!

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FU 2015!

I texted someone Happy New Year!!!

My person replied, Happy New Year!!! We are sick as dogs! Hahahahaha! FU 2015!

I busted out laughing.

My person had a party planned but since strep throat was in the air it was cancelled.

Which I think is very wise and kind, so not cool to share that kind of love on New Year’s Eve/New Year’s Day.

Me. I stayed home. Willingly.

I received the best call from my mom and step-dad.

They left me a voicemail, so now I have it forevermore.

My mom belted out Auld Lang Syne (The New Years Song) while my step-dad played the trumpet in the background.

Totally awesome and another busted out laughing and grinning ear to ear moment.

For me 2015 was a most excellent year.  A long time coming, well-earned most excellent kind of year.

Should 2015 not have been a good year to/for you, I feel your pain. Honestly.

I had several not so hot (understatement) years in a row in the not too distant past.

One foot in front of the other was the best I had in me at times.

But guess what?

It works.

Slow maybe, but it works.

So if like my person and any part of 2015 was not good to/for you, feel free to say FU 2015!

Goodbye 2015.

Hello 2016.

365 new days.

Happy NEW Year. I hope it is good to you and yours.

PS ~ For those interested, online dating lasted only 3 days for me. So not my style. hahaha

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Friendships Have No Age Limits

Friendship is a beautiful gift.

What is neat, I can be friends with almost anyone.

Even more important, so can you.

I have a friend who is 23.

We went to Atlantic City, met up with some other friends, and danced the night away.

I have a friend who is 26.

We attended a SUP (stand up paddleboard) yoga class. We will also be going surfing and are working on doing a half marathon together.

I have a friend who is in her thirties.

We have experienced a trapeze class, done a Spartan race, run a couple of other races together. We have also taken a painting class, done numerous walks and hikes AND just learned how to grill out for the first time together.

I have a friend who just turned the Big 4.0.

As much as we have been able, annually we do the same 10k together. Although this last time I complained the whole way, when I could breathe that is.

I have a friend who is two years younger than me, my sister.

Best friend ever and 42 years of adventures together that is still unfolding.

I have a friend who is slightly older than my parents.

I spent the weekend with her and we went parasailing. We also shared great meals prepared by her, and wonderful conversations.

Speaking of parents, I am pretty great friends with them too! The list is way too long to share all of our experiences together here.

Moral of the story, friendship is a beautiful gift. They enriched our lives.  They make us flourish. They connect us and help us grow.

And friendships have no age limits.


It Is On!

On my arm that is. I am sporting a Fitbit!

To say I am enamored with my Fitbit is an understatement.

Of course I am telling anyone who will listen ~ Oh my God you have got to get one of these!

And a few have.

Which leads me to a dilemma, competition.

One friend challenged me to walk 15k steps a day.

That started yesterday.

And I was hoodwinked.

This said “friend” works at a hospital and is on her feet all day!

Cheat much? hahaha

Actually, it got me of my duff.

By the time I got home from my desk job, I had logged about 12,500 steps.

So I went walking once I got home until I got really, really hungry.

I came back knowing that I had not reached my 15k goal because my bracelet wasn’t buzzing and lights weren’t flashing.

I sat down. I had logged 14,705 steps.

And then I thought ~ Oh hell no, I am not stopping now!

Out the door I went again until my bracelet was buzzing and lights were flashing and I was grinning and dancing a jig ~ I did it. I did it. I freaking, flipping did it!

Now mid-day yesterday, another “friend” challenged me and another gal to a Workweek Hustle aka let’s see who can walk the most steps Monday through Friday.

Now these chicks have a sit down job too, but holy crap, they are either very active or very competitive!

Talk about neck and neck.

I am only 751 steps ahead of them in this moment in time and that is only because they are currently sleeping.

At 3:36am the message for all of us to see read: Lisa pulled past Maria for first place! Woo hoo!! (The woo hoo part is me).

Yes, I was up at 3:36am because I couldn’t sleep.

And yes, I am not above getting in steps while others sleep. hahaha

So the moral of the story is be careful about who you call friends.

They may in fact just be people who will help you get off your duff and get in shape.

Oh, and one of these so-called friends of mine, she wants us to climb seven flights of stairs today.

With friends like these, who needs enemies.

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