Go back to school?
Buy a condo?
Seems to me if one keeps pondering the same things, perhaps one should do something about it.
Go back to school?
Buy a condo?
Seems to me if one keeps pondering the same things, perhaps one should do something about it.
This is the year I’d like to open myself up to having a relationship.
I mean for real.
I have been single for 10 or 11 years.
Yep. You heard me right. I am like a born again virgin.
I have had some dates over the years, but I have not been intrigued enough by anyone to want to do anything about it.
There for a while I even had the opportunity of being “Mrs. Robinson.”
I tried it out a couple of times, but it didn’t work for me. It is not my style, although, it was extremely flattering.
I have become quite comfortable being single.
And it took a while, but now those closest to me are comfortable with me being single too.
I think that shift happened in the last few years.
It is just a given, Lisa is single.
Before my dating hiatus, I had two long-term relationships, back to back, with one year off in-between.
My exes wanted what most people want – marriage, kids, etc. I didn’t.
There are other reasons the relationships didn’t work out, but the underlying theme was simple – we each wanted different things and envisioned different futures.
Both of my exes are married now, and I believe one has children.
I recently found out that my first ex waited to get married until the fall of 2014.
That brought me comfort.
He took his time, like I have.
He is the one that got away in my world.
I wouldn’t change anything. Things did not work out for a reason.
But he is the one I have cared for the most in my life.
As for me, I have made a couple of false starts of maybe wanting to date again.
But now I think I am ready, now as in on the other side of tax season.
Last month I was extremely busy with a January 31st deadline.
I remember waking up one morning at 3:30 am thinking about work – I need to do this, I need to do that, this needs to changed and oh, don’t forget that other thing!!
And then I thought – Holy Cow! I need to get a life!!
And that is when I started thinking about how nice it would be to be in a relationship again.
So on the other side of tax season, I will seriously get out, get involved and meet new people, because I could use more friends too.
I stepped away from work this weekend. I mean like for real.
This is the first weekend in a month that I did not bring any work home.
My boss is at the Super Bowl with his son. Pretty neat, huh?
Well, if the busiest man in the firm can take a little time to step away to enjoy life a bit before we are all living at the office, well I needed to follow suit.
I really needed it too – mentally, physically and emotionally.
As a result I have great news! I have been very productive this weekend, taking care of me things.
I am now the proud owner of four new (sports’ car) tires AND a set of rear wheel brake pads!
I took my S2000 in for the annually required inspection, and for the first time in my life, my car failed inspection.
Lucky for me, I remember how much it cost the last time I had to replace all the tires. That knowledge let me know whether or not I was being taken advantage of, you know, being a woman and all.
Not only were they extremely fair, and threw in many discounts, they kept my car locked up nice and safe in their garage the entire time they had it in their possession.. Um. They had me at hello with that move.
I have found my new mechanic(s)! I got to be all up in the garage, like the good ole days. I want to see and learn everything you can show me about my car, Jeep and Harley.
The only reason this whole experience didn’t stress or freak me out is because I had set aside some year-end bonus money I had received from my bosses.
Unlike four years ago when the Honda shop let me know that I would soon need to replace my tires…..but I didn’t have the money so I waited…..yep, it is a freaking miracle that I did not blow out a tire and/or crash my car with the way I was driving on those old tires.
It was mind-blowing when the mechanic showed me the old tires. Yikes!
And my new tires, HOLY CRAP! It is like driving on air. The smoothest ride ever!
A bonus, I walked to the garage yesterday morning to pick up my car. I, um, walked in 25 degree windy but sunny weather at 8:30am on a Saturday to pick up my car….it was @ a 1 ½ miles walk and it felt FREAKING FANTASTIC!
That is the first time in months that I have worn tennis shoes. For real.
What used to be my norm (tennis shoes) had become flip-flops, and I’ve only been doing things that could be done in flip-flops. If I couldn’t do it in flip-flops, well, I wasn’t interested. hahaha
Not anymore. Tennis shoes are soooo back in the game for me.
Even better, I put out a FitBit Walking Challenge, which kinda fell off my radar when my beloved FitBit died, for next week and four people have already joined me!
One other productive/awesome thing I did, I got an Apple® iPhone® 7 Plus baby!
One thing about me, I don’t upgrade unless I need to.
This new phone is only the fourth phone I have owned in the last 20 years.
The sales rep was like, WOW, you really are getting an upgrade lady!
I went from a 4, not a 4s, to the 7 Plus. See. I don’t upgrade for the sake of upgrading. hahaha
Not only is my new, beautiful 7 Plus iPhone the BOMB, but I set it up start to finish all by myself!
Mama has come a long way in the tech world in the last five years!
Now, I need to go take a nap, there is way too much excitement going on in my world this weekend people.
I hope you have a Happy Weekend too!
I was re-inspired to pick up my lifelong learning tendency again.
I’ve been studying audio books again since December 2015, because what else are you supposed to do when you are sitting in 2 hours of daily traffic to and fro work, you know that traffic you are not supposed to be sitting in because that was not part of the hiring agreement .
Sorry I digress, that is a very sore spot for me.
And that was complaining and bitching. hahaha
Anyhow, I have been studying audio book since December 2015.
The topics I have studied include: Inspiration, Spirituality, Health, Fitness, Self-Development, Money and Business.
I have purchased and listened to 47 books. And some of them I have listened to many times over.
My focus for the last 9 plus months has been on business.
In particular, I have been studying extremely successful WOMEN and really taking heed in what they have to say.
One of the more recent studies was Nice Girls Don’t Get The Corner Office by Lois Frankel.
Boy did she give me a lot to think about.
She totally blew my plans out of the water by making complete sense as to why I will not get to where I want to go on my current path.
In March, I will be turning 46 and I thought I’d be making $100k by that age.
That may sound like a lot of money, unless you live in the DC metro area and you are the sole-provider for your present and future living conditions and you presently rent so your cost of living increase annually.
In my vision, the $100k didn’t necessarily have to come from one source.
I am not lazy and could work on the side doing bookkeeping or so many other things for others.
But with my current job, commute and maybe even industry – that is not possible.
Frankel pointed out that many women earn certificates or degrees while working but cannot move up where they work once they complete their studies because they have been type cast and are only needed for the position they have been hired to fill.
She also shared that the new norm for those who want to move up is to work for a company for three to five years, learn all that you can and do everything you can for them….and move to another company with a higher position.
Gone are the days that you stay somewhere for your working career, unless of course you have made it to the top, then by all means stay and reap what you have sown and enjoy!
I’ve been with my current company, two different times and positions, for a total of five years.
I’ve learned a lot, and I feel like I have given a lot in return.
Now I want more, but not necessarily more in the way of duties.
I keep getting more and new things to do at work and that is awesome!
Slight problem, these additions are on top of what I was already doing.
So. That is where I am.
My heart says, I want and can do far more.
My mind says, I am open and keep learning.
My body says, girl, you better get me back in shape! Don’t you know it helps in all areas of life to be fit and attractive?
My broken foot last year and my love for margaritas have totally dorked up my body!
My focus now, due to tax season, is doing the best job possible at work while focusing on body (fitness and health) too.
That is about all I will have time for until all is said and done aka Tax Day Deadline.
And then we shall see what I can do with the rest of 2017.
Holy wow! I cannot believe so much time has passed since I last posted.
A lot has happened.
My grandmother passed away, the receptionist resigned to pursue a job more in line with her goals and I pretty much did the work of two people to get the firm I work for through the October 15th tax deadline.
Luckily we did find someone rather quickly to become the new receptionist. But when you are new, there is only so much you can do. She did catch onto our phone system quickly, and that was a tremendous help!
All of that led me to unknowingly showing up to sign up for classes two days past the start date, so alas – I am not taking classes right now. I wasn’t able to join late, even though it was only two days.
But, after all I have been through; this is really not such a bad thing.
Such is life. The classes will be there on the next start date.
Let’s hope I make it there in time! hahaha
Right now I am struggling with a different decision.
Here’s what woke me up Thursday morning….in my dream I was frantically driving my S2000 trying to find my way home after one hell of a day. I drove between what I thought were two narrow construction barriers. But the space kept narrowing and I discovered I was in between two semi trucks. They inched forward four paces – 1. 2. 3. 4. Each time coming closer together and each pace crushed my car more with me very aware what was happening, but the truck drivers didn’t know. I woke up right before the next pace forward which would have sandwich crushed me and my car completely. Um. So not cool that this is the last thing I dreamed before waking up.
I posted my dream and the picture on Facebook and a couple of friends pointed out, um, I think you have too much stress going on in your life right now.
I looked up the meaning of my dream on Google, which I do if a dream sticks with me so vividly. For me, it makes sense that dreams consolidate and process information gathered. It is your brain trying to solve something when the fully conscious mind is at rest.
The meanings I found:
The action of crushing anything in your dream indicates that you are under tension and/or pressure in regard to making an important decision.
If you dream that a part of your body is being crushed, then it suggests that you are being prevented to full express yourself.
I think both of these fit my situation.
I love my job. And I enjoy the people I work with.
But the commuting is crushing my spirit and pretty much making me an asshole when in traffic. I now have little patience or tolerance for slow drivers, and I really don’t like being so aggressive.
When I signed on to return to working for my current firm, my two must were: return me to my former salary and during non-tax season allow me to come in early and leave early to avoid traffic. My main pitch was, I don’t want to spend my life in rush hour traffic.
The sad thing is that I only live 12.5 miles from my job, yet I spend 7 – 7.5 hours a week going to and fro. That is almost an entire work day’s worth of hours spent commuting each week. That is depressing.
In the end it didn’t work out well for me to come in early and leave early during non-tax season. My job is kind of really need to be on-site during business hours kind of job.
Even shifting my hours to coming in an hour later and leaving an hour later still has me with the 7 – 7.5 hours a week going to and fro commute.
I have been doing this for 2 and half years.
So this is where I am now…What do I do from here?
I am still trying to figure it out.
Maybe a less disturbing dream will happen tonight to shed some light on my situation.
Something warm and fuzzy…
I applied to a local community college today and was accepted.
I am looking to add some classes to the Bachelor of Arts I already have to grow professionally.
Tip for the Day…Don’t Ever Stop Growing.
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